I been dating this boy for a year or so he says we sorta are dating but we are aloud to "hang out" with other ppl. I went to a party and made out with this guy, my boy found out and is pissed and wnats me back but he doesnt no if he can trust me anymore.. How do i prove to him he can trust me?
2006-09-27 13:07:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Girl, you've got an unbelievably egotisical guy who wants to have his cake and eat it too. If you hang out with other guys at parties of course you're going to end up making out. He's probably done the same thing - difference being YOU don't know about it. Tell him if he wants a more committed relationship then that's not what you have right now. If he wants a more committed relationship then the hanging out with other people thing - isn't going to work for you becasue you don't have enough self control. This is not a question of regaining trust. It's a question of how exclusive you want to be and you both not meeting up on what you're expectations are on what is or isn't right for your relationship. If you're both teenagers and say it's okay to "hang out" with others of the opposite sex - then he needs to define what in the world he's talking about - you're either dating casually with no commitment or there is some level of commitment that needs to be clearly defined and equal and fair for both of you. You really can't trust him anymore than he can you in this case. He has no reason to judge you and even say that. This "relationship" was on shaky ground before you ever made out with anyone else. If you did it to make him jealous and commit to you more - that's always a mistake. If you did it just because of a lack of self control - you're only human and a non-exclusive relationship isn't going to work for you or be enough motivation to keep you out of trouble.
2006-09-27 13:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a boyfriend and make out with another guy. Is it possible that you should be single and just go out with whomever? This way you can find a person that you won't want to cheat on in the first place.
Trust is difficult to regain and usually relationships experienced while in school are not permanent so don't worry about it too much.
2006-09-27 13:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, you cant prove to someone that you are trustworthy.. it has to be earned. Making out with another guy was not a good idea unless you guys decided you were not going to date each other anymore. I really dont understand what you meant when you wrote.. we are allowed to hang with other people. If you want him to trust you, then you will just have to earn his trust by not making out with other guys. In time he will realize that you are trustworthy again. Good luck.
2006-09-27 13:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definently lay off a little bit. Trust is hard to get back once you loose it. Try and become just friends first and show him the woman you really are. And if you really want him back as much as he wants you, you will do WHATEVER(reasonable of course) it takes to have his trust back.
If he really wants you back, your boyfriend will come around, but you have to be there for him as a FRIEND. Don't bring up boyfriend/girlfriend stuff if you doubt the timing. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 13:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if he should trust you. "Hanging out" means casual dating. Making out is not casual. You should definitely apologize. However, don't make promises you won't be able to keep. EX- I'll never kiss anyone ever again.
Is that really going to happen? No. So apologize and hope for the best!
2006-09-27 13:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by OMG. It's Laura. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'd define your relationship. Sit down with him and ask him if he believes it to be an exclusive relationship or whether he's keeping his options open by saying you can "hang out" with others.
If you both agree that you want a relationship with no others involved then tell him that's what you both should be working towards. If everyone's clear on where they stand then in the future there can be no misunderstandings.
Just my humble opinion...hope it helps...
2006-09-27 13:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by fatcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. Once you cheat in any way, that memory will always be there, and he will always have at least a tiny doubt in you. All you can do is be as honest as humanly possibly to him from now on in order to bring down his mistrust in you to a minimum.
2006-09-27 13:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he should trust you. Only time will prove anything, but not if you keep on "hang-ing out."
2006-09-27 13:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Earn his trust making memories of you two so he will forget everything else (at least on the surface). time heals....but try to do fun things together things he can hold onto instead of that memory.
2006-09-27 13:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by amofber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats definently going to take time. just be completly honest with him. dont even tell white lies because if he finds out on ANYTHING, its going to bring him back to that time when u lied before and its gonna be harder to trust u.
something like that happened with my boyfriend and i, and its been 2 and a half years since that has happened and im JUST now getting MOST of his trust back, its just going to take time and effort!
2006-09-27 13:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋