I had an operation (finally) last monday, 25th. I previously asked Q & A's for guidance, as there was nobody to help out me out with post-op care, overnight babysitting etc. We muddled through - but now my so-called friend says she won't help get my child to school for me. I feel giddy and sick when I try to walk. Need 3 more ops to put things right, but feel like cancelling because making arrangements was stressful, messy, and far from ideal. My family won't help. Social Services (My last-resort) said getting an overnight placement wouldn't be possible because litl'un has special needs. I need the ops - but I can't take this stress anymore.
2006-09-27 12:49:42 · 15 answers · asked by JustineTime 4 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
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2006-09-27 15:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello social services have a duty of care they can not fob you off Ask for a complaint form I feel that you should be getting family aid, contact your local mp or am. personally i would also contact volunteer centre, You did not say how old your child is so my ans wear is limited, The red cross may help they should have a home from hospital coordinator in your area. your health visitor should be on board to as your child has needs that must be met GO to your local papers get them to run a story on service shortfalls set up your own support network This situation is not that bad just feels like it cause you may be down at moment
2006-09-28 03:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Debs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go back to social services and speak to someone else as person you spoke to obviously didnt want to help! i know this was last resort tactics for you. you didnt actually say what your op was for as some people have staff that can help eg macmillan care nurses who not only help in your health but also social needs. speak to your doc or a nurse as they could help you out this is part of their job aswell.( I am a nurse myself ) could your childs school help in some way am sure they would also have knowledge and contacts you require (didnt say what your childs needs are?) if you need any more help please dont hesitate in contacting me hope this has been some help to your situation i know things all seem to get on top of you at same time but the future can only get brighter
2006-09-27 20:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by John "Freddie" West 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the school. Some school provides drop off service for children with special needs. If social services can't help, contact your GP and make him/her aware of your depression. They should be able to point you to local carers for help.
You can also try searching the internet for local carers in the county where you live in. I hope that you can get help soon. You have to be strong to cope with another 3 ops. I hope you'll make a quick recovery.
2006-09-27 20:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by m00nlight1ng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where are you situated is there a Salvation Army or other charitable organisations who could assist? If you cannot search just put a note the area you live in and I will search myself there must be one in Canada we have United Way a charitable organisation that helps persons in dire situations especially with childcare or emergency childcare for single parents or parents who are on their own and not able to get assistance.
I relied on a charitable organization when I was in hospital and they came through for me when I needed help.
I hope this helps
2006-09-27 20:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by non 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a new set of friends. Friends that will stick to they"re word.Too bad you couldn"t trade your family in too.I know, sometimes life is hard.When the going gets tough, everyone gets going.The only thing I can say is to hang in there.I wish you the best of luck!
2006-09-27 20:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking fo rcare for your little one you possibly hsould look into Respite Services, This is when children with special needs can stay with ;ocal care givers often Community Living agancies have this service, or look into personal support workers.
2006-09-27 20:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by just wondering 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very down phone your doctors,someone will help you just got to go get, Why is your friend and family not helping?speak to one or other again,don't give up! take care and Best of luck.
2006-09-27 20:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by jayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to social service and your child's school. And your doctor i'm sure there's help there somewhere but you have to ask!
2006-09-27 19:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some family some friend get back to social services they have got to help espeically with your child .
2006-09-27 20:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by rita g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋