Trying to hate my former best friend who I miss?

Question

Sorry i post so many of these topics about my former friend..

Anywho, my ex best friend and i dont talk anymore because of an arguement we had. we never confronted each other and sort of drifted apart. It's been a year and I miss her but a side of me just wants me to hate her for putting me through this pain. I try to forget her but it's really not working, i force myself to hate her but i can't. Most importantly though is that we are NOT on speaking terms. we havent spoken in over a year and although we have classes together we just ignore one another. i don't know what what to do about this on-going conflict which appears only I care about. I don't want to make the first move, or any move for that matter.

Should i give it even MORE time for this is blow over or should something be done. It's quite impossible i tell her how i feel because i really think she doesn't care.

What should i do / what'sgoing to happen / what's my problem?!

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Well, I really can't give you much advice on this. I am going through the exact same thing. My (former) best friend and I were best friends for over 14 years. We had an argument as well, and haven't talked in 2 years now. I can tell you I miss her more and more everyday. I don't think you are just going to get over her. It isn't that easy. She was a part of your life and that you won't ever forget. I'm sure it is eating at her everyday too, even if you don't think it is. Maybe you should tell her how you feel. Things will never be the same, but maybe it will help you move on. Good luck!

Answer 2

Hate is one of those emotions that you can't force on yourself. If you do, it is just going to put you through even more pain because one day you may regret even trying hate your former friend.

Instead, try and be the bigger person by talking to her and apologizing (even if you don't think it was caused by you) for whatever it is that you may feel guilty for. If she doesn't apologize or continues to ignore you then just try and hang tight because a friend is always bound to want to forgive and forget the past. It just takes a little longer than others.

Answer 3

I dont think that it's healthy to force yourself to hate someone. In my opinion, you need to talk to her. your argument must have been pretty intense if you haven't talked in over a year, so becoming friends may not come too easily.

At the very least I would recommend apologizing, maybe she will too, but dont get too hung up on it if she dosent. Try to get it off your chest.

If you simply cant bring yourself to talk to her, try not to force yourself to hate her, only good will come from that, I promise.

Answer 4

initiate the healing. right now you're just letting it fester and thats not good. tell her you miss being her friend. if it really has been a year then its not going to blow over unless you help it.

Answer 5

Hate is such a wasteful, useless and damaging emotion.....if you miss her, why not just swallow your pride and tell her so. You may find she feels the same way.

Life is too short

Answer 6

Best to move on or make up. You decide. You're obviously not happy like this. Oh you know the saying........Sh*t or get off the pot.

Answer 7

what is it that you got into that big fight about??


..... but i think that if it is bugging you that bad not speaking to her and not being friends i think you should say somehting to her, weather you tel lher to her face, tell her thorugh instant messagener (my suggestion so its not as hard as facing her) calling, texting,writting anythign really that just tells her how you feel.

Answer 8

These links will help you:

http://people.yahoo.com/
http://www.freeprf.com/
http://www.reunitetonight.com/index-browser-check-pass.shtml
http://family.public-records.com/
http://www.192.com/
http://in.members.yahoo.com/
http://www.b4usearch.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com/
http://www.zabasearch.com/
http://www.emailaddresses.com/
http://in.members.yahoo.com/nosuchtc.html
http://spaces.live.com/
http://www.anywho.com/
http://www.switchboard.com/
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf
http://www.arin.net/whois/
http://www.friendsreunited.com/

http://www.addresses.com/
(White and yellow pages)

http://www.theultimates.com/white/
(this is the ultimate white pages)

http://find.intelious.com/

http://classmates.com/
(This is brilliant for finding old school friends).

http://in.members.yahoo.com/Regional/Countries/India/
(This will help you find indian members of the yahoo directory)

Answer 9

get over it