okay... I HAVE FRIENDS!!! i'm not a nerd and i'm not a loner. i have friends alright?. i even have guys asking me out like constantly [i'm not bragging i'm just saying i'm not stupid] I'M NOT DESPARATE!!! it just makes me kinda upset....... i CAN forget about it but i'm just asking... and i have tried to talk to him he still acts nice. well pretty nice. but he probably isnt into me i dont care. i'm just sayin we'd be good as friends and everyone says he wont even hang out with a gurl who's not skinny... and i'm not fat but i'm not skinny.... really i'm not fat...... but yeah. he's shallow and he's like 15 so he's just being a 15 year old boy in MY opinion....... but no one understnads why it still makes me kinda mad i guess..... well whatever. :[
2006-09-27 12:40:35 · 14 answers · asked by AJ_Let'sGetFucktUp&Die. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You both need to turn off the TV and look for useful lives. He's comparing you to some image he has and you are wasting your time trying to understand his addiction to marketing and images.
2006-09-27 12:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
From the way I understand what you are saying, is this guy won't give you the time of day, and you have a crush on him, but he only hangs out with skinny girls. Everyone wonders why it makes you mad. Is this what you are saying? I will asume it is. First of all, how old are you? If he is 15 and you are like 12 or 13 then he might not want to hang out with someone that young. The sea is full of fish, and it seems like we can catch all we want except the one we really want. This is pretty normal! You get mad because he doen't give you any attention, and that too is normal. He shouldn't shun you because he might think you are too fat. Everybody may say this about him, but everybody could also be wrong. You need to learn to let go of the things you cannot have. Lots of guys may ask you out, but he won't and you can't understand why. You don't need a guy like this! He will only end up breaking your heart, and your worth more than this. Maybe sometimes you can try too hard to get someone to like you, and for whatever reason they just don't. Don't let this get you down, and for your own sake don't let him know he gets to you, or he will try to play on that. If you would just act like he doesn't exist and treat him just like he does you, he will start to wonder whats up with you, and will probably ask you out. DON'T go out with him!!! Just put him off, and tell him you have a date already, and if he ask with who, don't tell him. Say "You wouldn't know him" and leave it at that. Make him crawl to you, and ask you many times before you tell him maybe, but you heard he only goes with skinny girls, and you got to lose some weight before you would fit his style. Don't let him push you around! Like I said; you are worth more than what he wants to spend on a girl, and you don't need a creap like that dragging you down. If you still have problems then I would suggest you talk to your school counsler, or your minister. You do need to talk this out with someone you trust, and don't rely on what people say, or what you have heard. It may not be like it seems, and it usually isn't. Good Luck!!
2006-09-27 20:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think every adult out there looks back at when they were 15 and is amazed at some of the stupid things we did and how we hurt people who didn't deserve it. At 15, our likes and dislikes are driven by what we think our friends will think of what we like and dislike.
I am sorry you feel confused. He isn't worth the trouble. Surround yourself with people who like you for who you are and never be ashamed that you are skinny or not skinny. Try to be the best person you can be. Ultimately, if you feel good about yourself, you will attract the best people.
Good Luck.
2006-09-27 19:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by ciza29 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty upset, and FRUSTRATED! Like you've been "put on trial" and JUDGED or something! I don't know all about your situation, but I know someone who does! His name is JESUS CHRIST! He loves you, and He died on the cross to save you from your sins. He "came not to call the righteous, but SINNERS TO REPENTANCE." Have YOU ever seen yourself as a HELL DESERVING sinner that desperately needs God's salvation in Jesus Christ? That means someone that has SINNED AGAINST GOD IN BREAKING HIS LAW, stealing, lying, disrespecting parents, cursing, hating others, lusting/having sex outside marriage, deciding for yourself what's good and evil rather than letting GOD do that, etc. Have you EVER done any of that? Maybe you think what I'm saying has NOTHING to do with this question, but it does! Because God made you, and the reason you're here is to GLORIFY HIM! And if you know that your heart is right with Him through Jesus Christ, then it doesn't matter what ANYONE thinks of you because you're secure in GOD'S LOVE!
2006-09-27 19:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
alright, calm down girl. it's ok, we're not here to stab you or anything... I actually do understand why you're mad, it's happened to me a time or two (joy...not). Also, you don't know how lucky you are to have guys asking you out. I've been looking since april and still haven't found anyone... ugh.
2006-09-27 19:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Megan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't ask any questions in this message, so I have nothing to answer. However, I do think that you need to stop worrying so much about what others think and trying to explain yourself to people on here. Their opinion of you and your life doesn't matter. Just ignore any answers that you think are silly or inaccurate. These people don't know you, so don't let them get to you.
2006-09-27 19:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you must like this guy alot.I think he doesn't know some thing good if it was right in his face. you are a good person and don't let little things get you down.
2006-09-27 19:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by linda b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like that should like girls like you. You might want to think about telling him about how you feel. You don't really know if he likes you.
2006-09-27 19:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
what???? i'm confused, are you bragging or is there a question somewhere in there. Because if there isn't I just wasted five minutes of my life.
2006-09-27 19:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well what he's doing is just racist....im sorry..but liking someone whos fat but not skinny..is just mean.
2006-09-27 19:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by zil2mz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋