i have this amazing friend. we're sooooo extremely close it isn't even normal. all our lives we've done everything together and i dunno what in heaven's name i would ever do without her. we've been best friends FOREVER!!!! so now here's the problem....she just confessed to me that she's a lesbian and she has the hots for me!!!!!!!!!!!! what am i supposed to think after something like that?!?!?!? i felt like it came out of nowhere so i asked her if she's always been this way and she said no. its just that ever since we started going to an all-girls school together with a few other friends, she started to get attracted to girls. i dunno what to do!!!!! how can i live with that piece of information????? am i supposed to still be friends with her? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-27 12:32:29 · 13 answers · asked by jgmice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
try kissing her if u dont feel anything let her know... if u do then hey!!.. just kidding..
she probably needs to meet guys.. since u go to an all girls school so i would introduce her to another guy... so she can socialize with more people tell her that anythhing between u guys would probably mess up your friendship.. that u dont want that
2006-09-27 12:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by adrianascatering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happend to me.
I said," I dont care what turns you on in bed. but I will not ever get into a romantic or even sexual situation with you. The fact you told me this makes me uncomfortable... so I hope you dont mind if I act differently for a while.. maybe even stay away.
Her feelings for you shouldnt be changed because she's attracted to you... she should respect how you feel too.
It will fade.... If she's changing too much for you, dont be afraid to find a different crowd.
REMEMBER.... Show me who your friends are and I will show you what you are. Old addage.
2006-09-27 12:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by BeezKneez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are her TRUE friend than yes, of course! Just tell her that you have no interest in girls, and that if it was to hard for her to be around you anymore that you understand, and if she ever needed anything you will always be there for her. I am sure she is confused about things, just try to be there for her as best you can.
2006-09-27 12:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by KALAYY {♥} 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep an open mind---if you don't feel that way tell her-and maybe distance yourself for a while until you can be comfortable around you like you were. If you are you true friend you will not abandon her -. Be supportive of her needs and emotions...
2006-09-27 12:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break to digest everything. Talk it out with her after you've thouroughly assess the situation.
2006-09-27 12:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stop being her friend because she is a lesbian just tell her you dont swing that way you prefer dick and ask y she didnt say nethin earlier in the friendship
2006-09-27 12:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by chocolatedrop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you don't like her that way, and you just want to remain friends. If you feel that you don't want to be friends with her or something like this, then don't. My friend is bisexual, and I'm prefectly fine with it. Just tell her that you don't like her the way she likes you. If she's really your friend she'll understand, and remain friends...just friends with you. Hope this helps you. :]
2006-09-27 12:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that you don't feel the same way.....
I don't understand...why can't you be friends? Is it just because you feel uncomfortable? that's not really fair. But, if she's really wants to be your friend......she will understand and not make you feel uncomfy.
2006-09-27 12:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by rere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from her. I am sure u can find other freinds She probably allready feel in love with u. I hope u disagree with her lifestyle.
2006-09-27 12:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW!!!! YOU MUST BE THE BOMB. BUT YOU MUST BE TRUE TO YOURSELF, IF YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED, TELL HER. SHE WILL GET IT. SHE IS STILL YOU'RE CLOSE FRIEND/BEST FRIEND. THERE IS NOTHING A FRIEND CAN'T DISCUSS--EVEN SEXUAL DIFFERENCES.
2006-09-27 12:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by jynne63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋