I'm really good at a lot of stuff, like singing and tennis, but my dad calls me fat and overweight a lot. It really makes me sad. I've told him this, but he just tells me that he's my father and if anyone can tell me this it's him. He recently tod me that he just wants society to accept me, that fat people have a really hard time in everything. I don't believe this to be true. I have the best friends in the world and I'm fairly popular, with good grades and aspirations. What should I do?
2006-09-27 12:14:17 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
If you're happy with your physical self and your general health isn't suffering because of your weight then just accept that your father is going tobe critical and be yourself.
2006-09-27 12:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessica, everyone needs to take good care of their bodies and their lives. We all have to eat healthy food, exercise and read positive books. We also need to spend time with positive people. You love to sing and to play tennis, that is fantastic. I bet you do many other fantastic things. Think about the blessing God has given you. You have a dad (his not the best mannered but..), imagine there are some who have no parents. You can afford to play tennis and sing. These are all good. Deal with the areas you need to improve. Do YOU believe you are overweight. If you do not know, go online to check what your appropriate weight for you height and age should be and then go and see a health advisor. Then together work to meet your goal. Don't take criticism negatively, let it help you build new goals for 2007. Go for it!
2006-09-27 12:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your father has some self-esteem issues. If you are good at many things, play sports, and have friends, you are just fine.
What I would do, since you are always stuck with this father, is talk to your doctor and ask if your weight is healthy. If not, cut back on the junk, it is not good for you anyways. If so, tell the doctor to talk to your father.
What ever the case, a good part of society is not shallow, and is very excepting of all shapes and sizes, so your dad is way off.
2006-09-27 12:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Laura S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except for the part about your dad, this sounds like you're pretty cool person. I think your dad is the one with the problem, even though he wants the best for you, he's going about it the wrong way.
There are just as many miserable skinny people as there are fat. It's all about how you deal with it. I think you have a great attitude and if you keep that in mind, life can be your candy store.
What can you do? Never put yourself down. Be your own best friend first and always! Count me as a friend, too!
2006-09-27 12:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently he doesnt know much. You shouldnt let others get you down. Even if it is your father. My grandmother used to tell me if you keep on eating youll be as big as a house. I never paid any mind to it. And now im grown and NOT as big as a house. Dont listen to everything your elders say theyre not always right!
2006-09-27 12:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by ~florida-girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself: "I am not fat, I'm beatuiful, and smart." Then list all the things that you are good at. It may sound cheesy, but it works. Keep saying it until you believe it.
2006-09-27 12:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to a school counselor and tell them. It doesn't help when a parent (your no.1 role model) says such things like that. Have you tried tell another adult in the family?
2006-09-27 12:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by aznhoneydew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did when my dad kept pummelling my mind with crap(not the same, but same effect), ignore him, focus on school, graduate, MOVE OUT and AWAY. You'll feel so much better.
2006-09-27 12:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by fesspoint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should maybe go to your mom or other parent or guardian for help with this situation. maybe they can convince your dad to stop doing that. he probably doesn't mean it in a bad way but, he needs to know it's hurting your feelings.
2006-09-27 12:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by ☺collia☺ PaRtY LiKe tInKeRbElL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he says that because he's also worried about your health.
Whats wrong with losing some weight and being healthy?
2006-09-27 12:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋