Or am I just a glutton for punishment to even attempt such a thing? I've been on here before asking about the validity of cheating in a relationship and whether or not it actually has ANYTHING to do with sustaining a long lasting relationship. But I guess what I really want to know is, can it ever really last? In OUR community, where aesthetics and youth is grossly celebrated, can a long lasting relationship between 2 men ever honestly last (sorry girls...you folks seem to work out alot better then us men). I believe or at least seriously hope it can (or at least thats my mantra). Please spare me the monogamy stuff...at this point the guys that have lasted being together, albeit being open with each other, are something to be envied. How do two men in love make it through together through an adverse society, religion, and life? **Hope this question isnt too tough to ask**
2006-09-27 12:10:22 · 17 answers · asked by QuickBrownFox 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, the first gay male couple I ever knew were our neighbours across the street when I was a teenager. They've been together for I think 27 years now, and my mom just went to a BBQ to met their two newest adopted children..... and yeah, they're monogamous.
(But I think part of the trick is that they DON'T immerse themselves in the gay community. They just live regular lives with friends and family and neighbours and their teaching jobs and the one guy's church involvement and kids' activities.....)
But yeah....it CAN last.... at Toronto's Pride parade this year, two couples who've each been together for 50 years were celebrated !!!
2006-09-27 13:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my partner for over 30 years.
I've never cheated - and I trust that he hasn't either.
Why go out for a hamburger when there's a filet mignon at home? LOL
You asked, "How do two men in love make it through together through an adverse society, religion, and life?"
I believe it's true that gays have a tough time with some aspects of society, religion, etc. I believe having a life long partner has made it EASIER, not more difficult. Being together makes challenges easier - and sometimes even fun! - to meet.
2006-09-28 08:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by tristanrobin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any relationship can be long lasting as long as the two people in the relationship are right for each other. I have gay male friends that have been together forever and a day - a rarity at times I realise.
I really think it just depends on the person you are and the person who you want to be with. Eventually people do calm down. There is definately a 'youth' mentality there but eventually everyone gets sick of the games.
2006-09-27 21:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it can last, so long as the men are totally compatible. I have some friends that are a gay male couple, they are in their 60's and have been together since their 30's. They are one of the most inspirational couple's that I know, both straight and gay. They have been through a lot together, although I don't know if either of them have ever cheated. Whenever I ask them what their secret is they always tell me honesty, forgiveness, and communication. I know this doesn't help you much, I just wanted to let you know that it is possible.
2006-09-27 19:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of one male couple together 30 years but they have an open relationship. The only other male couple are together 20 years but one of them cheated and now had aids. I do NOT know of more than two or three lesbian couples that are together any length of time. I did hear stories of them splitting up after many years because of cheating. I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth getting involved? I know it never seems to work out long term for ME?
2006-09-27 22:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I klnow many male gay couples who have been together 15-20 years. Whether gay or straight substaining a long lasting relationship starts with really knowing the other person b4 getting into a relationship and being honest about who you are and what you expect from the relationship. then it takes work to substain it. Daily work.
2006-09-27 19:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it can work...I've been with my partner for 20 years...his brother and his partner have been together for 39 years....It doesn't look like gay relationships last because most gays pull away from the scene when they meet each other...and they just disappear from public view...but trust me there are lots of long term marriages out there.
2006-09-27 21:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you work at it and really like each others company to start with.
just on 10 years now and still happy
monogomy stands the same chance of working gay or strait you have a 50 ,50 chance but sometimes it works out just right.
2006-09-27 19:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Bearable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By my experience its sad to say, but no. It seems that after the intense feelings of love and not being able to be without that person even for a second, the feelings just turn monotonous and people turn to the next one. Also sad to say I've always been the one left.
2006-09-27 19:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by chaz reyes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course. I know couples that have been together 10, 15, 20, and more years.
2006-09-27 19:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋