Can you have a friendship with a Teacher?

Question

My name is Jennifer, and I have a Friendship with my favortie teacher at school. My friend's are telling me that it's weird. What should I do? My Teacher help's me with all of my problem's. Whenever I'm angry or really upset, She alway's comes up to me and give's me a HUG, and then she tell's me that everythings going to be alright. She listen's to me. We also goof around alot. We make each other laugh. We just love talking, and hanging out. What should I do about what my friend's think?

Answer 1

Who cares what your friend thinks! I am a high school teacher myself and I form relationships with my students and there are some who want to be friends with me once they graduate. Do you hang out outside of school? If so, then that is kind of weird and you should probably hold off on the hanging out outside of school until you graduate because that could be bad for your teacher's job. But, if you just talk at school and you confide in her and enjoy her company, there's nothing wrong with that. It's nice that you found a trustworthy, nice adult that you can trust! Enjoy your companionship with your teacher.

Answer 2

Of course you can be friends with your teacher. The key is to remember that she is not your peer. She is someone who sees that you need support and someone to take an interest in you. Hugging is fine if it is done at an appropriate time and place. I am not sure what you mean by hanging out. A teacher should first be a model and someone you see as wiser than yourself. To have a social relationship outside of school is not the best choice for either of you. IF you have real problems she should listen but not give advice because she is only hearing one side of the issue. My suggestion is to talk to a counselor at school or have your teacher meet with your parents and you if there are areas at home that need to be addressed.
I don't know your age but you need to talk with your parents, a trusted relative or friend to really work out the "problems" you feel are causing you pain.
The teacher should not hang out with you. You can be friends and that is wonderful but the adult has to guide you back to people who can really solve your problems.
Teachers are the best but they are older than you and if a teacher enjoys hanging out with you then I see a maturity problem there. Be friends but remember there is an age difference and there must be a line. Your friends may miss you and feel uncomfortable so they express themselves with the word weird. They also may see the teacher as playing favorites which is totally unacceptable. There should be guidelines set by your teacher on when and the amount of time you can talk. The teacher needs to pay attention to all her students and make them feel as special as you feel. You need to understand that friendship is very special and should not just be wasted on one individual. Good luck and cherish the fact that you are special to your teacher and I bet a lot of other folks!

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with having a good friendship with a teacher. Its a good thing that there is someone you can turn to when you're in need. It really shouldnt matter to you friend, its your choice to befriend this person (teacher). Just remember that there is always a line that you cant cross, because not only is she your friend as you say, but also a teacher, an adult. Just ignore what other people say.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with have a friendship with a teacher. You never know, having a teacher as a friend can be quite beneficial. They can give you some form of guidance too, b/c they have been where you are at, at one point of their life. As far as, what your friends think about the situation, pay no attention to what they say they do not understand.

Answer 5

It's nice to have a relationship with teachers so she likes you because its difficult going through a class where a teacher doesnt like you, but a teacher giving hugs is a little weird....you should leave the "hanging out" kind of stuff to friends your own age..

Answer 6

I agree with chaskfrazier and disagree with the teacher who responded. Although many schools discourage fraternization ( associating with figures of authority beyond a professional basis ie. ' hanging out' outside of class), there is no harm in doing it as long as it isn't sexual nor an issue of favoritism, and it isn't officially against school policy. I had a Spanish class with a great teacher who I loved to chat with after class. Mrs. Cisneros and I loved each other's company, and we got along great! She too, gave me hugs and I never thought it was weird. I babysat her 3 children for her on several occasions. Yup, I went to my teacher's house, met her husband and kids, and got to know her children very well. My parents were okay with it- they met her in person and even talked with her on the phone on those occasions. It definitely wasn't a teacher's pet type of ordeal, she treated me the same - in class. Just a pretty cool, friendly teacher!

Answer 7

If you feel safe with this teacher and she's not doing anything "inappropriate, I don't see anything wrong with having a friendship. She's a human being, just like you. Some people just click. I have friends of all ages.

Answer 8

yes, u can. i knew this girl in school who had a friendship with a teacher and would go to her house then the family met and i think they still keep in touch, the girl was a bit** bcus of this and got away with most stuff but everyone is different. But yes u can and it's not weird. good luck =)

Answer 9

A teacher is not a "girlfriend" .

As a teacher myself I can tell you that this is unprofessional behavior on the part of your teacher.

Helping you with problems is one thing (and it's fine) but it is inappropriate for her to be "hanging out" with her students outside of school.

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with you to be friends with your teacher thats really good for someone older trying to help you out with your problems. its not weird its cool .