I'm pregnat and very excited happy and very very pleased. The thing is though i dont cope very well with pain. Just the thought of being in pain gives me a painfull feeling allover me. Can anyone assure me or rather help me prepare myself for labour. How bad really does it feel to be in labour????????
2006-09-27 11:45:36 · 50 answers · asked by brandy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Be sure you get an epidural. I'm not going to lie to you even with an epidural, it hurts bad, but it's nothing that you can't take.( They let my epidural wear off so that I would labor faster)And you will forget all about it when the baby is born. The pain is worth it. Congrats!!! You can do it!!!
2006-09-27 11:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations!!! I have two Children ages 7 and 3 and I too don't cope well with pain yet I had both my children naturally with only gas and air! The best advice I can offer you is to have a good network of support with you ( I had my husband and best friend there) it really helped me to relax and deal with the pain. Listen to the mid wives and do whatever you feel comfortable with. I can only describe the contractions as a cramping pain to start that gradually increases throughout labour it is painfull and exhausting! use the gas and air it really helps!! to reasure you I can't remember exactly what the birth felt like so it does fade and I promise it is all worth it when the baby puts in an appearance!! Goood luck Honey you will be just fine x x ( pack in your bag a cooling spray, Massage oil, high energy snacks, lucozade if you like it and some of your favourite music!)
2006-09-27 11:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by rebecca n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Labour is the most pain you will probably ever feel! The best thing you can do is prepare yourself. You can hire a tens machine, most hospitals provide this service - ask your midwife. I attended antenatal classes and found the breathing and relaxation classes such a help. My labour was very painful but using breathing techniques learnt in the classes I got through it. They say after you have had a baby you can't remember the pain - that is true, you can remember that it hurt but not the exact feeling. It is all worth it when you hold your baby for the first time. Good luck.
2006-09-28 07:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a short established labour, only 4 hours. I was given pethidine, and epidural as well as gas and air and because my labour was so quick they didn't work. I'm not going to lie to you the pain was unbearable at times and I honestly thought I was about to die. BUT once her head was out the pain vanished.
Lets be honest... if the pain was that bad, why do people go on to have 2,3,4,5+ children? I'm pregnant with my second and I know I got through my first labour so although it'll hurt like hell you WILL come out the other side.
my tips: Ask for pain relief EARLY and make sure you don't get fobbed off.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 21:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just like you before I had the baby - but although it hurts, you do forget the pain. Once the baby is out, the pain just disappears. I did not have an epidural although I was in 25 hour labour because I did not want anybody jabbing my spine! And I had a tear as well. It is all for us humans and although you will get to the stage when you'll feel you can't cope, you can go on. Just believe in yourself. Your back will hurt (its a dull, numbing pain). Try to rest as much as possible in days approaching the birth, you'll be glad you did. My mum was in hospital till midnight with a broken finger and I was with her, and just as I got home I went into labour at 2.30am. I didn't give birth till 3.33am the following day, so I'd not slept for 48 hours althogether and still managed to push the baby out. A lot of women like gas and air, but don't be surpised if you don't. It made me sick the moment I had the first breath of it. You will cope with the pain, try the pool, the warm water does relax you if nothing else, and don't be embarassed to scream if the urge strikes. It helps you through the pain. Please, relax, enjoy your pregnancy, don't dwell on the birth it will only aggitate you. When you get to it, you will be just fine, believe me. The woman's body is designed for that. And when you see your little baby... there is NO FEELING LIKE IT!!! You'll be staring at the baby for hours. Although I was sleep deprived after giving birth, I couldn't sleep for another 5 hours, I just kept looking at my boy admiring him... Good luck and congratulations!!
2006-09-28 01:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya sweetheart, firstly congratulations, I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly for you.
I was the same as you when I was pregnant, and I think that ignorance is bliss when you have your first child. (well it was with me)
I have a very low pain threshold also. I don't want to scare you or anything but labour pains are the worst pain you will feel in your life, but its NOT the same kind of pain you get if you have a physical injury. Its totally different. Its a life giving pain that you know has a purpose. To birth your baby. Also it does feel like pooing out a watermelon (literally) but you only get that feeling towards the end of labour.
At the end of the day, during labour your body is working to birth your baby and you must ride with it. Just accept the pain and remember it has a purpose. Women have given birth to babies for all time, a womans body is designed to have babies, trust in your body.
If you get scared and tense it will hurt even more and you will need more assistance during the birth.
I found it wonderful to have my mother there with me during my first labour, my husband was also present but he didnt really know how to help me stay calm and focused. My mother having been through it herself knew exactly what I was going through and I knew that she knew, (if u get me?) I only used gas and air with my first child.
My Mum couldnt be there for the birth of my second child, and I ended up having an epidural and lots of drugs. By the way I would advice against an epidural, it goes against the nature of giving birth. I wish id never had it.
Try not to worry about giving birth, as someone said earlier its just one day of your life and the first day of your childs life.
Read up on the subject if your worried, there are millions of book out there about labour and what it is actually like.
Remember that all the midwives, consultants etc will be there to help you and look after you. If you need to use drugs then do, gas and air is brilliant, pethadine is ok but after having that I couldnt actually remember the birth and when my daughter was born she was a bit poorly, but she was fine and is happy and healthy now.
I wish you all the best and hope that I havent freaked you out too much, but I think its better to be honest.
Good Luck :)
2006-09-27 12:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was induced so I can't really give a very good opinion since I've heard being induced makes the labour much worse. I made it nearly 16 hrs without getting an epidural, but then the pressure pain became too intense and I gave in and got some drugs. lol
Do research your pain options though, there are side effects from all of them. I've had lower back pain ever since my epidural.....and not just normal low back pain from lifting, I get pain from standing or leaning over....it sucks.
2006-09-27 12:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cindi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was just like you! i was soo scared! i can't evan go to the dentist on my own! but the night my waters broke i just felt so excited i did'nt get any pains untill about 5 hours after my waters broke, but with the first pain it sort of took my breath and made me learn over it was a strange feeling! i breathed through them and kept thinkin yeah i am going to meet my baby and that helped! when at the hosp the pains got bad its really hard to describe what sort of pain it was my tummy would get very tight a strange pain an i felt like a couldnt breath, i asked for an epidural in the end because the pain was there constantly but the midwife said try this gas and air first! so i did and it was great every time i got a contraction i had it and it numbed it! i got very tired though then when i felt like pushing, i pushed and it sort of pushed the pain away! i had my beautiful daughter 7 hours after my 1st contraction and it was the best experience ever i would do it again for her anytime! shes worth it
good luck hope you have a good pregnancy and a great birth! xx
2006-09-28 08:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by lillypops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can not tell you how much it will hurt you personally as every one is different but i do not cope with pain very well but i found that following your body and doing what makes you feel better is the best thing if you want to sit do that if you want to stand do that i personal had a water birth which helped with the pain no end. wont lie it still hurt but if it was that bad i would not be pregnant with my second at 23 weeks and all the mums in the world with 4or 5 would never of done it again. trust your body and know in your heart that you can do this. i hope you get on alright
2006-09-28 01:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really tell you what your labour is going to be like, with my first son the labour was nothing with my second it was horrid.
If you have no problems, then I personally reccommend using drugs, nothing happens to the baby, and it makes the delivery process that much better, you'll be able to enjoy it a bit more, instead of just trying to breath through the pain.
I was the same going into my first pregnancy, I had no pain threshold to speak of, so if anything that works to your advantage, because when your contractions start getting stronger, you'll head to the hospital and be there in pleanty of time for the real work to begin, and you'll be surrounded by knowledgeable staff who will go out of their way to make sure that you are comfortable.
Truely don't stress yourself out about it, just relax and enjoy the experiance, as it progresses.
:-)
2006-09-27 11:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by lacchri 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had my son 15 months ago and i can barely remember my labour pains because now i have a little pain of my own to look after.
When i was pregnant and asked a friend about labour she said
"Remember when you were in school and the kids used to give each other chinese burns? It's a bit like that but down there"
I won't lie it will hurt and i was worried like you are now but now i can hardly remember, i know that it was a blessing that i had gas and air and pethadine and spent the most of it laughing. I know one bit, the midwife said to me "Your about to have another contraction" and i burst out laughing, "Contraction that's a funny word isn't it? Bit like contraption" i don't think i could even work out the meaning of it at the time!!!!
But relax because if you stress yourself out and worry about it you will not realise the miracle of bringing your child into the world.
Good luck and congratulations, you are doing well x x x x x
2006-09-27 14:31:05 · answer #11 · answered by Nimsay 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋