Okay, I have been depressed for about half my life.. since about fifth grade. I think it started because one day I just realized that I was fat, and I didn't like it... all the other girls in my class were skinny. I guess I kind of keep to myself because of this and may seem kind of standoffish I guess. I have 1 friend and and other people who I don't really think consider me as their friends. Today, one of these people told me that someone called me a "stuck up *****". It got me really upset, not mad, just sad because I'm always trying to make people like me and it seems like everyone hates me.... I really don't have a question here, just need some advice... Thanks
2006-09-27 11:45:34 · 7 answers · asked by gravytrain036 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh, and I'm a junior in highschool now.
2006-09-27 11:46:03 · update #1
i believe ur question is actually a problem with ALL men and women, young or old. we are taught to go to school to be educated in books, but it starts from the HOME to teach the children how to be Healthy, Positive, Confident, Productive and ultimately Happy people!!! this is the advice i give to young men & women regarding building confidence in Yourself first, which in turns helps you to shed your shyness, which then helps you to form better relationships with others, because 1) u are making sure that You, Yourself are accountable for your thoughts and actions, and 2) u will be better inclined to filter thru negativity and "bounce back" from those things, and push forward to seek and surround urself with Positivity! :)
:) the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-09-27 12:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you feel that there's something wrong with you, you turn inward and build a wall around yourself to protect yourself from being hurt. This tends to make you a little more aware of who's around and you might come off as being a snob. Don't worry about what they think and learn to let things go. Learn to trust people a little more, learn to live and be yourself. Being standoffish won't help you make friends. Let that wall of insecurity drop, be able to laugh at yourself with others, be able to take constructive criticism. This will improve your life. Just know that no matter what size you are, what color, what height, shape or group you hang with, there's always someone out there that thinks your awesome and that person should be yourself!
2006-09-27 11:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, it doesnt really matter what the other people think about you. Are you really that concerned about what other people think that you will go down to their level? If they say something about you consider first what your actions might do and affect you. Dont worry about it, your a junior in high school so you probably have enough pressure as it is. Just have fun and enjoy what is around you.
2006-09-27 11:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Falling Star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit worrying about if people like you or not. Trust me, no matter how hard you try or what you look like, you just can't please all of the people all of the time. Make yourself happy and just be kind/respectful to others. There are true friends out there waiting for you to recognize them, when you do, you won't have to do anything at all to "make" them like you, it will come naturally.
2006-09-27 11:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you might as well learn it while you're still young. People can be cruel, heartless and wicked. I know it sucks sometimes, but remember this, very important: GOD LOVES YOU! He created you for a reason. He has plans for you. Plans to prosper you and give you hope and a future. He will never leave you alone, and will never hurt you. People will fail you. God and his wonderful son Jesus will not. Submit yourself to him and he will give you the desires of your heart. Jesus is the ONLY one who can fill that emptiness in your heart. Love him 1st and foremost and watch your life flourish!
2006-09-27 11:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well look and see how u act around other people may be they think that you are stuck up by the way you act.. but i dint think that weight makes any difference its the way you are comfortable about yourself your personality and if you think they are not your friends they forget about them because i truly think that friends are the ones you meet after high school or if they still keep in touch after high school they they are still your friends.
2006-09-27 11:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be proud of your body! skinney does look better than fat but go find a fat guy to be with! and fat friends! good luck
2006-09-27 12:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by sexylovesexyqueen 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋