Well, in my class theres a girl that has really bad odour problems.
But i don't know how to let her know without hurting her feelings...
got any advice please?
2006-09-27 11:25:07 · 33 answers · asked by Ryan C 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
First, remember not everyone subscribes to the Western idea that body odour is a bad thing and that we tend to be over sensitive to our natural smells - no one has ever died from being stinky or smelling something unpleasant.
Secondly, odours do not mean a lack of cleanliness - a person can bathe every day and be clean but if they do not use a deodorant or antiperspirant, by the end of the day there will be something of a noticeable odour.
Third, be kind. Always be kind. If this girl isn't someone you talk to the first thing you say to her shouldn't be "you stink." I don't think anonymous notes are the way to go - too hurtful. So, if you want to help her, get to know her. Perhaps she has a medical condition causing the odour, or she's allergic to deodorants.
Don't buy her perfume, soap or anything else, it's insulting.
Don't talk to a bunch of people in your class/school about this - again, not nice.
Talk to her. Tell her that you've noticed something and you want to discuss it with her, but that it's a personal matter, and you don't want her to be offended or think you are judging her but you are trying to help. Then gently mention that perhaps deodorant/antiperspirant would be a good addition to her daily routine.
Good luck
2006-09-27 11:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by zale 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why mothers don't take care of their daughters better than this to keep them from going through embarrassing moments such as these. My daughter is starting the 5th grade and she must take a bath everyday and she must not wear her shirts more than 2 days or a new shirt everyday. But that was not enough. We started getting the B.O. thing and then we decided it was time to start using baby powder under the arms and then finally putting deoderant on her shirt under her arms so that there would be no B.O. And this is only the 5th grade but you can be sure that by the time she gets to jr and sr high that she will already have learned how to avoid these embarrassing situations. Mothers where are you????
But I agree that you should do this discreatly. Have a teacher or counselor talk to her or slip a note into her locker or her bookbag. And tell her that she has B.O. and that everyone can smell it and that she should take care of the matter to save herself from further embarrassment.
2006-09-27 11:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by meeeohmyyyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont say anything straight forward. Sometimes it is peoples religon not to use any perfumes what so ever. you might offend her or emberass her. if you sit next to her and other girls get a nice smelling lotion and put some on your hands, then offer all the girls some lotion, she might take some and like it and go buy or wear some lotion. If not maybe just keep useing the lotion for yourself in hopes that it masks her BO. maybe she does wear deoderant but it isnt the right kind for her. Also maybe get in a conversation with the girls around you about what your best perfumes are or what the best deoderants you guys use and why but dont make it obvious that you are talking to her but indirectly. ease the deoderant info into pervious conversation like talk about lotion then talk about perfume and then finally talk about deoderant, maybe her she cant talk to anyone in her family about her BO issues.
2006-09-27 11:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by fleur_loser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah im having the same problem with these 2 black girls who just dont want to accept the idea that they need a GOOD deodorant. they get offended and the whole locker room is always holding their breath. one of them gets mad for the smell of freshness and cleanliness and has already threatened to throw away my deodorant(fruity) and body spray(peach) which everyone appreciates minus them. just tell her if she wants to go to walmart with you and ask her if she needs anything like shampoo, gel, a cd, BODY SPRAY or DEODORANT. if you can do this very un obvious then she will not notice. or bring up at walmart(if you take her as a favor)that you wanna try this new mens deodorant and ask her to smell it to see if it smells good(that could remind her to buy a certain body deodorizer.. or ask a friend whos real good friends with her to take her to walmart and do all this.
2006-09-27 11:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay..... Here's what you do, pull her aside and tell her that you are just looking out for her best interest, Tell her that you have been noticing some BO coming from her, if she is unable to buy hygiene products then that's when you give her the gift baskets with soaps. But please no perfumes........funk and perfume don't mix. Good Luck and you can do it.
2006-09-27 11:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her a bottle of perfume (it doesn't have to be expensive, just go to a local drug store). Think of an excuse like it's Monday, Happy Monday! And give her the perfume. Good luck, and if it doesn't work out, move seats, or worst case buy a pair of nose plugs.
2006-09-27 11:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Type a note on the computer and slip it in her locker when no one is looking. Do not tell anyone else about the letter or they might try to embarrass you and her both. Don't put your name on the letter (just leave it as anonymous). That is the best way so that neither of you are embarrassed.
2006-09-27 11:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ah, this is a toughy, well you could ask her what she had for lunch and tell her something smells of garlic really bad, and it is driving you crazy, subtle but perhaps she will see that you are being kind and gets the hint, not everyone is fortunate to have hot water, sometimes we have to be patient and kind, try the food approach and make sure you don't direct it towards her completely, good luck, and big hugs to you and her.
2006-09-27 11:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her alone and be nice and gentle with it and dont call her out in front of the entire class. Tell her you told her becuase higine is very important and you didnt want her to be embarresed
2006-09-27 11:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Angie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i live in a town full of farm people and they all smell like monure or cows or farm animals....try just saying to her in private so you dont hurt her fellings hey i dont mean to hurt your feelings but i found this great deodrant and it helps and it might just help with your b.o. but say it in a nicer way
2006-09-27 11:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by david cook lover!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋