Hi everyone~
I am 23 year old virgin and all my friends, especially my best friend Jordyn, says that these days nobody is a virgin at 23 years old. I just want to wait until I am married. Is that so terrible? All of my friends make fun of me and say I am prude, and I am a baby, and all kinds of stuff. And sometimes when they talk about sex and their experiences, I feel stuipd and left out because I cannot relate to what they're saying because I have never had sex. Or anything even remotely close to sex. All I have ever done is kiss a guy, thats it. And I really want to wait until I am married. But lately I am feeling like it's stupid to wait. Any advice?
2006-09-27 11:24:20 · 15 answers · asked by mercedes_es_bonita 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
the values you seem to have are rare at best. my hat's off to you! sex is one of the best experiences you will ever enjoy, believe me, the man that you one day marry will respect and hold that near to his heart forever. not to mention when you have children of your own,you will be able to show them from experience the positive side of waiting. sex is very over rated by our youth today. the choice you make now may end up affecting more than just yourself latter on.
2006-09-27 11:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by cycodad69 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to worry about. I'm 24 and also choose to wait!
You may not be able to relate to your friends in talking about sex, but look on the bright side, whatever you're curious about, ask them!
I ask my male friends about stuff all the time and 99% of them tell me they think it's respectable these days to find a girl they like who is a virgin.
And don't feel like a prude either! I did at first, but then anytime I ask my brother-in-law about things, he's totally open and so are all my other close male friends who are my age or older.
2006-09-27 12:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by tai_aka_tamariana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are doing is commendable. I am 22 and a virgin and I don't see what the big deal is. It is your life and you do not have to prove anything to anyone. There is no sense in rushing for something when you are obviously content to wait until marriage. Virginity has become an odd taboo in this country for some strange reason or another. All I can say is do what makes you comfortable.
2006-09-27 11:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely no problem. Some people have sex for the first time later than others. No big deal. It's better to have sex with someone that you care about than to just have sex for experience's sake. 23 may be later than average. If you said 33, then you might want to take a look at yourself and ask what's happening, but currently no big deal.
2006-09-27 11:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Virginity is a valuable thing. Don't ever give it to just anyone. Wait until you're married. It will mean a lot more to you. Also, you'll be very happy to be able to tell your spouse that you loved him enough to wait for him, bc you knew he'd be that special.
If you have sex now, you'll have those memories coming back to you when you're with your husband. You'll hate that, bc you'll compare your husband to those other guys. What if he doesn't measure up with them in your mind? Then you'll be dissatisfied with him, and may even come to resent him bc he can't please you in some way. And all bc you didn't control yourself. Avoid that problem and wait for him. There's a lot less worry when you wait.
2006-09-27 11:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by STEPHEN J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well since you said you kissed a guy then no go ahead and have sex. its not legal to get married to the same sex (i dont have anything against gay people)
but if you arent then remain a virgin. if they make fun of you you can be like " well at least i wont have any chances of having a sexually transmited disease and wont end up with a kid and have to stay together because of the child".
2006-09-27 11:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by cady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be pressured by anyone. It is very difficult to know your own mind these days let alone being strong enough to stick to your convictions. If you are willing to wait until you give this gift to your husband, that's a great thing. It is your body, your decision, no one else's. Be strong and know that you are being you.
2006-09-27 11:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your values! I can appreciate that you are waiting to be married first. There is no better way to tell someone that you love them than saving yourself for that person only. I admire you for waiting...... : )
2006-09-27 11:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by dmp_car_8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! You don't let your friends make your decisions for you. Each person has the right to do what is best for them. You are an exceptional person!
2006-09-27 11:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO,NO, and NO!! It is NOT a bad thing. You will be like a jewel in the eyes of suitors!! You don't have to worry about diseases, emotional distress, feeling cheap or used or any of that stuff. More power to you!
2006-09-27 11:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by busybody12 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋