marriage???

Question

Should people get married or have kids or buy a house???? What do people do first? does it really matter??

Answer 1

I think the only thing that matters is that there is LOVE 1st

Answer 2

Does it matter? Yes, it matters to the extent that it is your life. Otherwise, it only has as much meaning as you assign it. Generally speaking, marriage is an outmoded concept that would best be tossed in the wastebin of history as it is completely unrealistic and oppressive in modern times. The only exception to this opinion is if you intend on having children: marriage gives women, especially women with children, legal protection, much more so than if you have children outside of wedlock. However, the real question should be "Why do you want to ruin your life by having children?"

Children are very much like wild animals that have to be domesticated and the fact is they will frequently go out of their way to make your life miserable. Before you have children, spend some time at Wal-Mart and other stores: watch the little animals running around and acting like savages and their poor parents screaming and making fools of themselves trying to rein in their little beasts. And the fun only gets better when they're teens: nothing beats having someone in your home who never grows tired of telling you to f*** off. And to top it off, every single cent you make for the next twenty years will wind up being spent to pay for all their wants and needs and college and what-not. Making love in the kitchen, pleasant dinners out, and vacations that are actually fun for adults: all these things and more will become a distant memory in your past if you have children. And, the fact is: the world doesn't need anymore children. We have over six billion people in this world; most scientists say that's at least two billion too many for a sustainable future. Save your future happiness and the world at the same time: stick to birth control and do NOT have children. Nothing will ever ruin your life so badly as kids.

And, if you can successfully avoid reproduction, then marriage is truly completely optional at that point. Consider what economic, legal, and emotional advantages you have by marrying or not.

If you want to know what most people actually do first in order: typically, the first thing they do is live together without marriage for several or more years. Then, once they know each other and are certain of longtime comfort and happiness with each other, they marry. After marriage, they will typically buy a house, and then they will at last decide to reproduce. After living together, the only subsequent action that makes real sense right now is buying a house because it is a buyers' market at this time. Otherwise, marriage and especially reproduction should be avoided as best as you can.

Good luck! I hope you reach the decisions that are best for you!

Answer 3

Get the house. Better if you do it alone. Then it is yours. Then, get the man. Don't marry him, he could take half the house. Have his kids if you like. They will ALWAYS be both of yours.Marriage is never guaranteed. Do not feel pressured to do it. Easier to part ways then to go through a divorce. If you are not religious then why bother. Between a will and insurance, everyone is covered. Got a man, got a house, got dogs, got kids. In that order. Not married, own the house in my name. Share the kids, dogs and are happy as **** for 10 yrs and counting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Most our friends got divorced already or are afraid to cuz they will lose it all!!!!!!!!!!!We get pressure all the time to " Be Married" from all sorts of people. We just laugh at 'em. We are comfortable. We ARE married. Commitment, same thang.

Answer 4

People do all of those or none of those. They are all choices have consequences and the best thing you can do is make informed choices and then deal with the consequences. My husband and I got marrried, then had two kids and we hope to be able to buy a house in the next few years.

Answer 5

Not really. Go in any order you want. Or make up your own order of events. You don't have to be like everyone tells you to be. You don't need kids or even a house. What if you want a boat or if you want to travel all over the world?

Answer 6

I did it all backwards-as far as traditional standards go... had kids, got married, then bought the house. Love the kids, marriage didn't work, but the house is all mine ;-)

Answer 7

its society that says finish school, meet someone nice, get married, buy a house, then have kids well society can kiss my @ss i had two kids first then got married ( to my babies daddy)
after 14 years then bought a house and we're perfectly happy

Answer 8

Live together--you know try before you buy motto. Kids should be last as you don;t want to bring them into an unstable relationship.

Answer 9

People do whatever make them happy and it really doesn't matter what they do first, second or last.

Answer 10

Yes, it matters to a lot of people. People just have their priorities wrong.