I want to know if someone throughout their childhood felt like their parents were basically doing the thing mother and fathers (feed , cloth, school) but not really wanting the child to be there. Could this lead to the child as an adult to be very selfish and defensive???
2006-09-27 10:36:09 · 10 answers · asked by KissmeQT 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Also the child hasn't spoken to parents for 5 yrs now, because they feel that the parent doesn't want to have a relationship
2006-09-27 10:38:17 · update #1
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2006-09-27 11:25:05 · update #2
Sounds more like a person who is selfish and self centered whose parents were there for them and took care of them but didn't get everything they wanted and now as an adult still thinks someone owes them something. That person needs to get off the pity pot and take responsibility for their life now.
2006-09-27 10:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by the_wire_monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I didnt go through that but as a Psychology major I think I can help you answer it. any sort of feeling during childhood can cause a child to grow up with issues it just gets worse when its the parents (the people they are suppose to trust most) are the ones who are causing the discomfort. Children draw their personalities from their parents like who they do or dont want to be in the future when they have feeling of rejection this can cause rebellion and anger and possibly long term animosity towards the parents and other sibiling. the fact is parents have to be aware of all their children every moment they spend with them is vital and the moment the trust is broken it could take years of pain and fustration to get it back.
2006-09-27 10:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by ask me again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child knows when they aren't wanted. Whether they were taken care of physically or not. They will look for that love elsewhere. Usually and older spouse. They will be easily controlled by this person who loves them like their parent(s) didn't. But they will love the control because the reward is love. I think they will be selfish but only towards their parent(s) who didn't show them love. Selfish of their kids attention to the grandparents, selfish of the spouses attention to the parent-in-laws. They will be defensive of their life and the things they do, but only toward the parent(s) that didn't show the love.
2006-09-27 12:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by lilmama 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it leads to feelings of selfishness or defensiveness. It would make a child depressed, insecure, and having feelings of inadequacy as an adult, just to name a few things that could be wrong with this person
2006-09-27 10:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well every child needs to be hugged to develop properly, but I would expect that person to not be selfish but quite the opposite trying to make up for what they didnt have, I know this much the cycle won't be repeated with said persons children.
2006-09-27 11:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it could and then again what if they become a parent and see that unplanned children require all the things a wanted child needs. and even if you did not initially wanted the pregnancy your instinct to love and nurture kicks in and sometimes many years later you are glad you had that little accident because she is the source of much love and wonderful grandchildren
2006-09-27 10:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definately think that could be harmful to a childs emotions, and the way they feel love, and what they see love as.
2006-09-27 10:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by StonerChick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could.
It could also make the person strive harder and want to acheive more.
2006-09-27 10:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends how parents show their feelings
2006-09-27 11:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitly... its been proven that abuse and neglect is a cycle that follows you throughout your life
2006-09-27 10:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋