I am with someone but I really want to explore an intimate relationship with someone else. Yeah, before you say it, I do know the risks of promiscuity. I will be protected. I am just very active right now and want to try new things that my man dosen't want to try, but this other person does.
2006-09-27 10:30:39 · 18 answers · asked by Ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is no way around the issue: you must decide if your desire to explore your sexuality is of such importance that you are willing to risk your relationship.
You really need to think about this, whatever decision you make is going to have an effect on your relationship.
1- If you decide to see somebody else to fulfill your needs, it belittle your man's efforts.
2- If you decide to devote yourself exclusively to your man, you are going to hold resentment towards him and perhaps be sexually frustrated.
3- If you decide to do it behind his back, then you are going to be lying to him.
I can not tell you what to do, I can not determine how important sex is to you, ask yourself are you willing to give up your relationship with this man for sex.
2006-09-27 10:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by dscot399 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you choosing?
Tell the guy you are with that you are interested in taking a break in your relationship. Tell him you respect him enough not to cheat or lie, and are just not ready to be settled down.
You are not obligated to stay with someone you don't want to stay with, but you do have an obligation to be straight with the guy.
Understand that you will be losing your current guy, if he has any self-esteem at all.
Go for it, and be honest.
Or if you are ready to settle down with THIS guy, then pass on your fantasy of "exploring intimate relationship with" others.
Understand that you will be presented with other possible relationships ALL your life, and you need to weigh if HE is the one you want for your partner.
Nothing to choose, really. Just when to break up, now or later.
2006-09-27 17:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be intimate with someone else, than tell your man you want some time apart. Let him know that you are wanting to experiment and you'd rather try these things with him. If he's not cool with that than maybe it's time to move on...please don't screw things up with both people by playing them.
2006-09-27 17:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by She B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont cheat on him. Be honest with your man Tell him if he wont do it for you or what you wanna do in the bed you will just have to find someone who will.. If that dont work then " take a break" and go try some fun stuff girl!
2006-09-27 17:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the man your with if he loves you will he try what you like. It is not worth it to loose the one your with because you want something that he can not give you. How would you feel if he did not think you wanted to do something he liked and then went out and found someone that will.
2006-09-27 17:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you planning on staying with this guy? How do you feel about him?If you love him, don't blow it and cheat. If the chemistry isn't working ,then break up and go for someone else.Remember sex isn't every thing in a relationship.
2006-09-27 17:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either one was Mr Right you wouldn't be asking. You shouldn't be in a serious or fixed relationship with anyone right now--and that's OK! Play the field--have fun--that's how you find the right one.
2006-09-27 17:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by patlrussell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then have the guts to tell your man you want to see other people. Or just end it and move on. It isn't fair to anyone to sneak around just so you can get some sex on the side.
2006-09-27 17:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to figure out the value of the relationship you are in. If the sex with this other person is more valuable than what your current relationship, then go for it!!
2006-09-27 17:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should try this new person if ur sure he is willing to go out with u. u should also not tell the old person ur dating as a safty net in case the date goes bad
2006-09-27 17:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by jackylegs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋