I ran into an old friend of mine and now I can't get him off my mind. He was my first love and I wonder if he was my destiny.
He's never married and hasn't had a real relationship since we dated. I went away one summer and when I came home I told him I was upset with my sister because she had set me up on a blind date. He didn't say a whole lot but that was the end of us. I did try to get him back, but it didn't work. I want to call him and let him know that I'm thinking of him. Should I?
2006-09-27 10:28:43 · 21 answers · asked by mickey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, Yeah one more thing. I am married.
2006-09-27 10:34:20 · update #1
I think you should give him a call, let him know it was great seeing him, and ask if he'd like to get together for lunch and catch up. Doing this you won't look desperate or anything but more like you'd like to catch up with an old friend. Go out, talk some kinda get a feel for if he's involved or not. If at that point you feel comfortable, let him know that he had been on your mind for a while and was excited that you ran into him. Wait for a response and if it seems mutual throw it all on the line, if he seems reserved, just go with the flow and possible re-establish the friendship and it may possibly bloom into a relationship.
Best Wishes!!
:o)
2006-09-27 10:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destiny is to be destined. Your married, and your married for a reason. As far as contacting him and letting him know how you feel about him you are your own restraint, however, the catch is this, you could find your lost feelings and fall in love all over again, and if that happens then, you will find your self extremely miserable in your marriage or it could open Pandora's' box, If you honestly feel that it is destiny then only time will tell the tale. Let your conscience be your guide and your heart your mediator.
2006-09-27 17:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by skawp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't he had a "REAL" relationship since y'all dated..how long ago did all this take place. What's the time frame between your last date and running into him? Which would take us back to the first question....What exactly are you looking for in a relationship and why didn't it work out the first time? I think these are a few questions you need to ask yourself and be honest...REMEMBER, You ain't never seen a flower uproot, and take off chasing no bee...peace
2006-09-27 17:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by davey dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely. What's the worst thing that could happen, he has no interest in you. Well at least you would know the truth and you could move on. But what if he does share the same feelings as you and you don't say anything at all. You will regret it. So at least tell him how you feel, just maybe you'll find out he feels the same way. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 17:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by ajsad36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont call him it would be awckward for both of u i would write him a letter this way you can tell him everything u feel u need to and he wont be put on the spot u know what i8 mean then at the end of the letter let him know you would like to hear from him ask him to call u if he still has feelings for you or has something to sayhell call u good luck ma
2006-09-27 17:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by terra nerra panerra white bread 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better just to leave it ,he had his chances to be with you and never took it.I have never loved anyone since my first love and thats been almost 17 years ago,yes i have been married and had a few relationships but never loved them.From time to time i think of her and wonder what if....I managed to trace her to the other side of the world,never got in contact.I always get butterflies in my stomach when i think about her but reality kicks in and realise that it wasn't to be and with life it goes FORWARD not back..PLus you have hit the nail on the head when you said "i tried to get him back but it never worked" what makes you think it will work this time ,get on with you life and no to live in the past............Besides everybody knows that you cannae beat your first love but that doesn't mean they the one....
2006-09-28 18:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kermanzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that you "almost" forgot to mention the fact you are married tells me you are far too immature to handle anything at this point.....How would you feel if your husband happened to "bump" into an old flame and want to call her???? That should be your answer....
2006-09-27 17:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a call and see if he's interested in having dinner with you. If he says "yes", then you can slowly bring up the feelings that you still have for him. Otherwise, you should move on.
2006-09-27 17:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah of course....catch up on whats been happening...maybe u could even slip in a 'hey you wanna hang out someimte' if ur lucky,lol
2006-09-27 17:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by lindseyy♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never go 2 ur first luv, if he cheated on u or somethin. other wise do what ya want wit him
2006-09-27 17:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by lilhotshigger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋