plz help me out
2006-09-27 10:20:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Divorce him...you deserve better than that and you shouldn't put up with it. If you try and pretend it is alright then he will see it as being an ok thing with no consequences.
2006-09-27 10:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how bad you two really want to save the marriage. The trust factor has already been violated, that will take awhile to regain. They say counseling helps but I can't say for sure. as a woman you will eventually forgive but will never forget. Men tend to leave the issue alone and move forward a bit more quicker then women do. Women have that reputation of being spiteful,vengeful, and known to hold a mean grudge for a very very long time!
2006-09-27 17:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Charisma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I could tell you to leave him because it sounds like he doesn't even deserve a woman as amazing as you! Seriously, you did nothing wrong but you are on Yahoo answers trying to get some advice for his cheating!? If you really don't want to leave him then "make-be-leave" him (my mom calls it) Let him know that you are leaving him and really do it (with intentions to eventually go back). They say "You never know what you got until it's gone" well, he won't realize that until you leave him and he is without you. Some people would say that this will "backfire" but how so? If he isn't interested in long term then why should you waste your time? I'm sorry for your situation as I know it may be devastating. I'm not sure if you are religious but just pray to God for strength and he will give you answers.
2006-09-27 17:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs_Rivera2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a marriage councellor. Without you giving more information, I really can't say. Be upfront and confront them; tell them that if they're not willing to go for counselling hten you're leaving. If that doesn't work, get a divorce. It'll be hard, but will save you much of your happiness and self-esteem in the long term.
2006-09-27 17:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wound need to get your fact straight. Proof in physical form, paper, emails, ph number, eye witnesses, body marks. Never approach a situation as this by mere feeling, assumption because you'll lose big ! Then talk to him about it w/ your proof and come to a solution if you want to end up in good terms, otherwise then do what first triggers a common woman not a smart woman.
2006-09-27 17:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kim, do you know this for sure? Have you talked to him about it? If not do so! Just remember these are his issues, not yours. If he wants out chuck his *ss out. But if y'all have kids together and really want to work it out, some counseling might be in order. Some times people just make mistakes. My man cheated on me after 7 years together and we talked about it. When he asked me what I was going to do, I told him I'd let him know in two weeks. He slept on the couch and I acted like he wasn't there. I also wore lots of short shorts and halters during that time. After 2 wks were up, I asked him what he wanted ... his answer was me and our family. We will celebrate our 24th anniversary this Oct. I hope this works out for you! God Bless.
2006-09-27 17:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by She B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why stay with your spouse if he is doing this? I don't know how long you two have been together and divorce may sound bad to you, but don't you want someone who is always going to be faithful to you, no matter what? If he is doing this now, it will always be in your mind....
2006-09-27 17:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by jon m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you could leave. Once a cheater always a cheater. Or two, you can stay and collect all the v.d. he will bring home to you. The choice is yours
2006-09-27 17:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lourdes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously u cant leave him, his ur husband after all... u need to talk to him... tell him that u know abt his mistress... ask him wot went wrong in your relationship... be nice to him to get ur answers... but if he tells u that he doesn't love u nemore.. pls move on... dont stick with him wishing he will change ur mind... he wont... in time u will find some one who will love more than life it self... it will hard in the beginning but i guess it will be worth it... take it as a challenge...
2006-09-27 17:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by beautysexychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I told you that my wife was cheating on me, and asked what to do, what would you say?
I think you should do that :)
But if I have to give my own answer, I say leave and don't look back!!
2006-09-27 17:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋