What do you think about abortion?

Question

What if you are not financially able to support this unborn child and you are in a long term relationship,already have two children and are just trying to make ends meet?
Your Advice would definitely help?

Answer 1

I think every situation should be looked at individually. I don't agree with abortions but i accept they happen,I understand the reasons people give for having one. If you're asking me should you have one then given the info you wrote then I'd say have an abortion but do something so you're not in same situation again.Yes my partner had an abortion but it was far from an easy decision to reach. hope this helps...xxx

Answer 2

Well hon, its a something that you and you alone will have to determine.

You do have some stumbling blocks in your path either way you choose, however you can do it.

I urge you to do your research on the actual proceedure in and of itself. The after math is usually worse than any physical pain could ever be. Its something you will live with for the rest of your life, but ultimately its your god given right to decide what is best for you, your family and the embroy.

Have you checked into adoption. There are alot of people who are looking for little babies being unable to have their own who would love to care and raise your child. That is ofcourse if you could carry it to 9 months. Check into it, cuz some will actually pay for your doctor visits during the pregnancy - just make sure you keep your end of the bargin.

Have you asked the father haw he feels about this baby? This is something that both of you should talk about, however I feel if he's not your husband, you have the last word. I know that sounds a little selfish, but the truth is Dads leave all the time.....

Having the finacial difficulty is a huge stumbling block, but you can get more information on this from the family planning centers. They can help you work out a budget and get into some programs that can help you out. They can also help you find the right birth control for you and which best suites your lifestyle.

Having an abortion or not having it, is a question that you will have to decide all on your own. It boils down to, can you live with your descion - which ever way you decide.

I hope you research your options throughly before you step in either direction of your choice, just so you have all the cards on the table and come to the best choice posible.

I wish you all the luck, because its a difficult choice, but it boils down to your right to make that choice, just choose wisely.

Answer 3

I might be the wrong person to ask but I can give you my opinion. I got pregnant at a very inconvienant time in my life but decided I had to face the consequences for not taking precautions when I knew better. But I'm not trying to scold anyone so please accept my apology but I will say that I did think of abortion as the most convienient solution at the time but then thought of the baby I was carrying and how it wasn't his choice to be concieved and he should not lose his right to life because of my inconvience. I gave my son up for adoption but still have contact if I want to. I highly recommend checking into adoption it is not a bad thing like alot of people make it out to be! There are so many people that would give anything they had just to have a baby to raise even though it may not be from their bodies. Alot of people say adoption is so selfish when in all reality which is more selfish getting an abortion because it the pregnancy is an inconvience to you or giving your child life that they are entitled to seeings they didn't ask to be concieved in the first place but, to also give a well deserving couple who can't have children a gift that nobody can understand until you are told you can't have children. Not saying its easy because it was definatly the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I have no regrets with my choice because I know I gave my child life and put his needs above my wants. My advice is to at least check into it give it a chance. I know alot of people who say "Oh I could never do that" but the thing is you can do anything I don't know how but I did do it and am very confident with my decision. My son is now 5 years old and is thriving like no other! I have a daughter who is seven months old and I know what its like to love your child the way we mothers do but if given the situation that I could not support my child financially or any other way you owe it to your unborn baby or child to give them the best life possible and playing God I don't think constitutes making the most responsible decision. Good Luck and I hope all goes well for you! Just have faith and everything will work out the way it is supposed to be.

Answer 4

If you are in this situation, this needs to be your decision not ours. You are the one that has to live with whatever you decide, whether it be abortion, adoption, or keeping the baby. There should be a family planning center in your area. I urge you to go there and talk with someone who can explain your options. Whatever you decide, make sure that you are 100% sure that its the right decision. Then, get birth control so you are not in this situation again until you and your partner are ready. The family planning center may be able to offer low cost or free birth control.

I can tell you that I was in a similar position when I became pregnant with my son and the worst part was everyone telling me what they thought I should do. I had to make the decision on my own. I went through every option and ultimately decided to keep my unborn child. It was hard at first but I don't regret it for a second.

Answer 5

As you can tell this is a very heated topic with lots of people involved in your answer.
I am not going to tell you what to do as far as wether or not to abort. I personally think it is wrong but you are living your life an have to live with your own choices.
You need to contact your local crisis pregnancy center and visit them. They will help you go over your options.
Also if your income is that tight you can probably qualify for goverment assistance.
Adoption is a huge issue for you with already having 2 small kids. Can you carry the baby full term and give it up, what will your younger 2 think? COntact local adoption agencies and they can tell you what they have to offer,or find a adoption atterney who may be to find you a quality couple or organization to work with you. I would never tell my chidren this is your baby but that you are helping another mommy and daddy make a family who can't do it themselves.
Pray on your choice and I wish you the best.
Don't let people beat you up on here about what you should of done it's to late now you can only make the best of what you have to work with in the moment.

Answer 6

when i was 16 i had to have one. i regret the fact that i was not more responsible but if i would have had that child it would have been 8 by now and right now in my life i can't even fathom the though of having a child - i know i made that right decision,it's not a matter of what people think.....and that's just it - it's all about how you feel about the situation. I'd rather not have a child than have one and go through the pain of not being able to give it a proper life and all of my attention. Good Luck to you - think about this really hard before you get overwhelmed by the excitement of bringing a new life into the world.

Answer 7

If you have gotten into this situation, then you knew that it was a possibility of you getting pregnant. Now, you say you have two children and are in a long term relationship.. I think that shows that you are obviously chancing getting pregnant. EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Some people will argue and will say that it's a CHOICE and that we can't refer to it as murder, but it is and will ALWAYS simply be murder. If someone were to kill you, right now, they would be charged with TWO murders, one for you, and one for your unborn child, so think of it that way.

I am not at all trying to tell you WHAT decision to make, I am simply saying this... God does not put anything on us that we cannot handle. If you think that it is too much for you and your bf/husband to handle, by all means, consider adoption. There are so many people out there that are unable to get pregnant and would love the chance to have that child.

Remember, you made the choice to lay in that bed... just remember that that child has this opportunity for life and you should not be so quick to end it.

I wish you the best of luck in what ever your decision is. Prayer is always key. God bless you and good luck.

Answer 8

I think I wish you'd been more careful about birth control before the "deed"...
Abortion is an option you should consider, especially if another child is going to make it difficult to feed the ones you have (and yourself and your husband). If you can pre-arrange an adoption, where the potential adoptive parents will help cover your medical costs and maybe even costs of living, then I hope you'll consider carrying the baby to term and giving it up for adoption as well. Personally, I think both abortion and abandoning a baby to an orphanage without an adoption already arranged are equally bad things...but it's your body and your baby, and you're the one that needs to make the decision. Good luck with whatever you choose.

Answer 9

If you have a healthy baby inside you, you should probably think about giving the baby up to a loving family that can not have children. Abortion of a healthy baby is very selfish and there are so many people our there dying for a child. Make the right decision.

Answer 10

I am not sure where to go with this. I see both sides. I see that you are killing a child that has the chance to do great things in the world and may change it. But I also see how the mother may be unable to take care of the child. But to me give birth and give it away to a family that can love it. I am adopted and I am glad that I am. I have a good family that loves and cares for me. If I was with the mother that gave birth to me who knows what bad things I may be doing. So I would say give the kid a chance at having a great life.