what would u do women only?

Question

ok if u were developing a condition that ur mother had when she was younger that made it near impossible to have a baby and when she did she had to have a disectimee after woulds or it would have killed her say ur 16 and now or in the very near future was ur olny chance to have a baby of ur own without adopting and u had a bf that was devoted to u and was sure he would take care of u would u decide to have a baby this young so that u could have one of ur own with the man u love b4 this condition forces u to have a disectimee or die of cervical cancer would u do it plz this is my situatoin ive been told by the doctors that there is a good chance that i am developing this now so i may only have a short time left to have a baby my own >>>>>>>>>> what would u do
if ur parent supported u and the rest of the family including the would to be father of the baby

Answer 1

I'd definitley have a child if i were you and if this is really what you want because trust me girl I'm 18 and having a baby is no picnic. And I'm not even doing it by myself i have my boyfriend and my mother and father and its still hard. If it its really what you want then go head and Good Luck!!!!

Answer 2

Your quite young for a child. That said if I personally were in your situation I would have a baby. Taking care of a baby is hard work, raising that child through its years is even harder. This is something you need to think long and hard about. Remember, if you have a baby you are expected to make mature decisions regarding the child. You definitely have been stuck between a rock and a hard place here and I hope it all works out well for you. Make 100% sure that your family and the would be father of the baby supports you fully. At your age you will need all the help you can get while trying to raise a baby. Whatever you do make sure you get an education. Your going to need it to support your child. Good luck to you, I hope whatever decision you come to works out well for you.

Answer 3

Wow... That's rough... but I think that if you have 100% support from your parents and this is what you and your bf really want and you know that you can give that child a happy, healthy life... I say go for it. You only have this small chance to have a child of your own and if you have the ok from the people who love you the most, then you're set. It was what I would have done in your situation. Just make sure you're prepared for the responsibility. Good luck.

Answer 4

I wouldn't have a baby just because there was a chance I wouldn't be able to do it later. I'd rather wait until I was in a stable marriage with the finances to support a child. I'd have to think about what else I want to do with my life such a college and/or a career as well. Teen mothers don't have it easy and I don't think I would bring that upon myself intentionally; if I had to adopt in order to have children later in life, so be it. Those kids need parents too, afterall.

Answer 5

the question is how old are you? are you stable enough to provide a good home for your child (without relying on your parents)? and are you mature enough to handle a child? \

God lets everything happen for a reason. Your mother had this condition, but obviously she was able to have you.. if it is meant for you to have a child, you will.. but do NOT make the decision too early.. and if you aren't ready. Think long term.

I got pregnant at 18 .. I wouldn't trade my son for the world.. but now I am 22 and I see all of my friends in college, having fun, partying, and doing things that I can't do now. I love my son, and I don't regret having him... But if I could go back, I would have waited.

GL.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

If everyone in your family supported you and were going to help support you and the baby, along with the father, I would do it. Having a child of my own in the number one thing I want to do before I die. And to me it sounds like you do, too.

Just make sure it is truly what you want and pray about it.
God will help you make the right decision.

Answer 7

oh dear
first, let me say i am so sorry you even have to think about this problem

i think that it's wonderful your family and boyfriend are supportive of you and everything, but do think about the baby. what kind of life would you bring it into? would you be able to go on and accomblish things in your life? would you be ready for it? is your body ready for it? i don't doubt that you and your boyfriend are in love, but what about marriage? how long have you been together? can your relationship handle the stress? i think that if you have any doubts you should wait, having a baby of your own would be wonderful, to be sure, but not if you arent ready.

did you think of the possibility of a surrogate mother?

best of luck!

Answer 8

I would go for it. As long as every party involved, including your bf, was consentual, I would do it. I hate hearing about women who end up with problems and can't have kids and if this is your one shot to have a baby with very few complications, then do it. And I hope you are blessed with twins for it!!!!!

Answer 9

I would try to have a baby but when you are older. Only GOD decides who gives birth and who doesnt, but ultimately it depends on how faithful you are. I say pray, ask GOD for a child and thank him. When you do have your baby dont forget to thank him again.
Dont be heartbroken if you cant have a child, maybe your reason for being was to give your love to a child not of your womb.
Please be possitive and leave your worries to GOD, he will help you.

peace and love your way.

Answer 10

if your parents and the rest of your family are supportive and the would be father is also and if you have really thought this out, I mean really really thought about how this could change your life and think you can handle it, then go ahead.