I've just been doing some research online about marriage and read that marrying the wrong person can actually create more problems than it solves. Is this true? Has anyone actually been in this situation?
2006-09-27 10:07:36 · 21 answers · asked by diamond_iceman2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've just been doing some research online about marriage and read that marrying the wrong person can actually create more problems than it solves. Is this true? Has anyone actually been in this situation? The reason why I asked this question is because I have always felt that marrying someone always brings that "happily ever after" aspect with it. And I have never been married before and not married to date.
2006-09-27 10:21:24 · update #1
Marrying the wrong person, why marry them if you know they are the wrong one. It creates so many problems because you can't be married to someone you don't love. You'll be misearable the rest of your life, don't ever make that mistake. Wait for the right one to come along and you'll know.
2006-09-27 10:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course marrying the wrong person can bring problems and even create more problems than it solves. Feeling you are married to the wrong person will always be a feeling that's with you, unless you decide to leave the marriage, but some people can live with being married to the wrong person for all sorts of reasons, but does it make them truly happy? I think not.
2006-09-27 17:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by haggispa2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying the wrong person for the wrong reasons can create problems. When you marry someone you must actually Love them as a Husband and Wife love each other. I was once in this situation, and it does create more problems than anything else. When you marry someone, it has to be for the right reasons.
2006-09-27 17:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by ajsad36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what sort of problems do you think any marriage - but especially the "wrong" person - can solve? Are you imagining that a person might marry to please others? Or are you aluding to arranged marriages?
The truth is, its tough enough if you marry the right person - the wrong person would most def cause a whole myriad of new probs you didnt have before. God knows, the right person creates enough new problems. I dont think marriage ever solves any problem long term.That is not why anyone should marry.
2006-09-27 17:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the wrong man eight years ago. He was the greatest man ever!! But once the wedding was over, he was totally a different person. He went from being nice to abusive (both physically and verbally) in under ten seconds. Know who you're marrying. Live with them, talk to their friends and family members. Some just make better boyfriends than husbands. Thank God, I've remarried with someone who has been my best friend of more than ten years. He's the BEST!!! :)
2006-09-27 17:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sillie Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage within it self is a full time job so to speak. You have your work cut out for you. Most couples don't find out they are not right for each other however, until some time after wards. If you feel that you are initially marring the wrong person, may you should call it off.
Otherwise your odds of success are still as good, or worst, as anybody else.
2006-09-27 17:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been in that situation. Yeah, marrying the wrong person will create more problems than you can ever imagine. Especially when the wrong person does not love you. When they don't love you they can make your life miserable with infidelity as well as with emotional and physical abuse. Life with the wrong person can be a living hell.
2006-09-27 17:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ive been in this situation, it was hell, eventually I had enough walked out of the marriage with not a penny, gave her the house, paid the mortgage off and gave her every penny in the bank, it was worth it. Ive now remarried and it is bliss, far better that the 18 years of hell i put in. The worsce thing was that I knew on my first wedding day i was making a mistake, but didnt have the bottle to stop the wedding.
You live and learn!
2006-09-27 17:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by william c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Diamond I,
Common sense tell u that marrying the wrong person WILL definitely create problems and heartaches, headaches and all kinds of aches will follow.My sister married the wrong person until 2day she still regrets it even though they are divorced.
She has a daughter who does not know that her mother is still living bcoz of the lies that her father told her..
SO bottom line is b careful who u marry..!
BYE COG
2006-09-27 17:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Child of God 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i have not been married, but ya not souding like a smart *** but ya it can create problems.
i dont recommend marrying a person just cause you think its the right thing to do.
or cause you got the girl pregnant.
or cause you feel sorry for her and her situation or situations what they may be.
marry each other cause its honestly what both of you want.
key word honesty that comes from the both of you
remember you can not save anyone they must save themselves are you can do is give support.
2006-09-27 17:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋