i dont know what to do.
2006-09-27 10:05:40 · 17 answers · asked by JIM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Try this number:
1-800-DONTCUT Help for "cutters"
http://usminc.org/links.html
2006-09-28 04:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is a juvenile (under the age of 18)
talk with their parents.This person obviously has a problem with depression.I have depression and I used to do the same thing.
Your friend is troubled and needs help from
a psychiatrist.You need to talk with his or her
parents immediately because this kind of behavior can lead to death.Even though they may only be cutting a little (cat scratches) it is
a very serious situation.
2006-09-27 17:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who does this and just posted a question asking for help on it too.
I think you need to keep talking to the person, keep being there, keep reassuringthem that they are worthy of being considered a good person and not to hate themselves, keep inviting them to things and making them realise that their company is valued within our circle of friends. Keep telling them that they need to have confidence in themselves before other people will have confidence in them - and show them that you believe they can do things and that you trust them by giving them things to do that involve respolsibility - so they know you are 'needing them' for something. then maybe eventually they may realise that they are not the terrible person they thought they were and can start to respect themselves enough not to want to do it.
I thnk that if you keep just saying 'don't do it, don't do it', it's not really going to help - need to address the problem of why they are doing it. And then try to solve that.
It may be necessary to get them professional help if they keep on doing it.
Keep caring - they need you around. One day, when they get over this - they might even be there for you!
2006-09-27 20:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by myfairladyisasleep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to find out is why. Talk to her in a calm matter. After you got some information call her parents and sit down with them and let them know what is going on. Have you and her parents come up with a solution together that would help her out but not hurt your friendship. That is wonderfull that you are so concerned
2006-09-27 17:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned from experience (my son is a cutter) that your friend seriously needs help. Maybe you could try opening up to him letting him know that you know and ask him what is going on in his life that he is doing this. I have been seeking out answers to this myself, and i truly wish you luck. I have been told that some cutters do it to punish themselves and I have heard others do it so that they can "feel something". If talking to your friend doesnt help, go to someone you can trust, like your parents and let them know your friend is in trouble. No offense to any cutters out there, but its my opinion that if you cut, no matter what the reason is, there is something seriously wrong . My son for instance, finally opened up to me and we have learned that he is Schitzophrenic and suffers from Physcotic disorders, it took a lot of love and perserverance and patience to learn that it was the voices in his head telling him to do it.
2006-09-27 17:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by melfel_over 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend used to cut himself when I would get mad at him, just yesterday he went and got some scar treatments. I didnt know what to do and it is very embarassing , mostly because there right there on his arm, the hairy part, not the underneath side. He has stopped but the rage is there I know it, it defantly a huge problem
2006-09-27 17:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥RN♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious problem. Confrontation can be hard, but it is part of being a good, true friend. He or she needs professional help.
Remember......people who cut do it for attention, she will need your support
Tell an adult if you arent an adult yourself
Good luck, and I hope your friend gets the help she needs.
=)
2006-09-27 17:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents, a school counselor, or a teacher. Your friend is calling out for help.
2006-09-27 17:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and explain to her, that cutting yourself is not the answer to solve any of her problems. It would only make things worst. Explain to her what the hell do u get out of cutting yourself. you wont die. you'll just feel more pain. It makes no sense.
2006-09-27 17:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by tRaCi3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a cutter needs help tell there parents talk to some one at school but just tell some one
2006-09-27 17:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋