my daughter has been recognised under the "talented and gifted" goverment scheme, but taking her out of school for an afternoon to have extra coaching (requested by her County coach) we have faced a negative response from her head at school, what can we do?
2006-09-27 10:02:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I'm guessing you're British just because you mention that the government actually invests in gifted education! I'm American and would love to see state support like that here, but I'm not holding my breath.
I do however have a friend whose son is in a similar situation to your daughter's. She made the decision to pull him out of school for this year only and educate him at home. He has been thriving. He has always been a shy and diffident boy, and this experience seems to have given him the scope to learn in the way that is best for him, without the distractions of a formal classroom. I've been taking a second look at the whole question myself, though I'm reluctant to take that step.
It does seem to me that you'll have to weigh the battle with your Head against what you really think is in your daughter's best interest. If your experience with her County coach leads you to believe he/she really might have a better idea of what's best for your daughter than your Head, I'd go with your gut instinct. You may be setting yourself up for some uncomfortable interactions with the school system, but here's my two cents: never, never ever let a really smart kid just stagnate in a conventional classroom and get bored and disgusted with school and with learning in general. It just doesn't serve anyone's best interest, least of all your daughter's or yours.
I do hope this helps.
2006-09-27 10:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Leslie D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a tough call....
if u take her out of school ull get her unauthorised absences which could result in u getting a fine or being sent to jail. also these absences will appear on her records and in her annual report to u - thats the law part of things...u might get a visit from the education welfare officer too
if she is talented in the area of sport (gifted is when its an academic subject like maths) this is great, but does that mean the rest of her education is going to suffer? Maybe ur efforts might be better placed in an area of weakness - make her a more rounded individual, rather than someone who only has one focus and goal in life. Widen her interests and broaden her horizons, thats what education is about.
If she does need extra coaching to develop her talent, whats wrong with weekends or after school - theyre all finished by 330 or 4!
2006-09-28 11:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The head is probably feeling threatened by this scheme and may feel a certain element of 'going over their head' to get an appropriate education.
The feelings of the head are not your problem, the best interests of your daughter take priority over all else. If the head decides to be huffy then so be it, if they become actively obstructive then it will be time to call the local LEA and book them in for an attitude adjustment!
2006-09-27 10:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by The Wandering Blade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either change schools if she is in a bad one or leave well alone. She needs to be with her friends and will only suffer if you make her different. Children develop at different levels due to different external stimulus (if any!). Let her be a child and go at her own pace. Being unbelievably happy is so muc better than being unbelievably intelligent! I am sure you are so proud of her, but please don't take over... Let her pass whatever exams easily but surrounded by friends and with no pressure...There is so much stress and bad feeling just be happy you have a child that will progress and acheive (if SHE wants to). I know you do this because you love her a lot, but think of her heart too...not just her head...
2006-09-27 14:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be suggesting she's going out to do sporting activities.
G and T takes a lot of extra input from teachers if done right and you are attempting to remove your child from a tenth of her education.
The discretion is with the headteacher. Either accept that as an educator he may know what he's talking about OR move school.
If you remove your child without his permission you will be liable to prosecution (usually large fines).
The Government are equally keen on attendance as they are on academic success.
2006-09-27 10:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth do you want to take her out of school for? Even if she is on the gifted and talented register that is no reason to deprive her of any education. Many children are on the g & t register and do not take time out to develop their skills at the expense of their educational and social experiences. There is plenty of time outside of school hours when she can have coaching - it would seem to me (not knowing what ?sport she excells in) that the coach might be trying to get her to train at his convenience. Let her have a normal school time with her friends, it will be far more beneficial!
Sorry, but I'm with the head on this one - I think he's got your daughter's interests at heart.
2006-09-27 10:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Purple 8 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-02 04:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by birchett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while many teachers actually care about the students, the administrative people usually only care about policy. schools lose money when they don't have body count, so maybe the reasons the head at school has have nothing to do with your daughter's academic success. maybe it's all political, as everything seems to be.
2006-09-27 10:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the head.
School is designed for the average pupil. Since your daughter is above average, it would be doing her a disservice to force her to stay in an average environment all the time when she could have the opportunity to be really challenged and inspired every now and then.
2006-09-27 10:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by Chris H 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont know a lot about this situation, but my reaction would be to listen to the school. dont push her too much - let her be a normal child.
i was pushed quite a bit as a child, and its had a pretty negative effect on me.
however, if this is something your daughter wants, then maybe your situation is different. if she wants to do this, then i suggest you fight for her - overrule the head and let her shine!!
2006-09-27 10:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by clairelouise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋