I know I blame your parents for mine.
2006-09-27 09:41:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think that the way you are raised in a key factor in the person you become - but ultimately, we make our own decisions. Our parents do their best - or maybe don't - but who we are is who we choose to be. So if you don't like who you've become, do something to change it. I think when you start blaming people for things in your life - you use that as a crutch to make yourself feel better rather than changing and overcoming...Hope this helps.
2006-09-27 09:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did at first. I could not get over the fact that if my childhood was different, I wouldn't have the problems that I have. This is all true, but at some point you have to take responsibility for your own life. I was a crappy student and my self esteem was low. I didn't care about things and did not participate in any activities. I made up for all of this. I went to college although my grades were bad and I didn't get accepted where I really wanted to go.
I excelled and won many awards. I just finished grad school and have a pretty decent paying job. I participate in many things and my life in not as empty as it was before. My parents moved to another state and told me that I'd never make it on my own. I am proving them wrong right now. I love them and visit a couple of times a year and we get a long ok.
2006-09-27 10:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sam M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you blame your parents for the things that are wrong in your life then you have to give them credit for the things that are right in your life. I agree with Common Sense and would add that you'll never be happy until you take responsibility for your actions.
2006-09-27 10:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to, but now I have come to the understanding that our parents do the best they can with what they know. It is not just parents, it stems back generations. Everyone is guilty but no one is to blame. The key here is understanding that from a spiritual perspective you chose your parents to learn spiritual lessons. What did you learn that makes you a better human being from their presence in your life? That is the key question.
2006-09-27 11:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is perfect. Nobody has the perfect life. From the time you are born till the time you are 18 blame your parents. go ahead. After you become an adult, its time to let it go and start living your life. Don't cry about the past. Its in the past. Make your life what you want it to be. Its up to you to be happy. Good luck.
2006-09-27 09:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. I think I blame others' parents for the things that are wrong in my life as well. But I THANK my OWN parents for the things that are RIGHT in my life. :-)
2006-09-27 09:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Clever, Eye of Sauron!
There are no doubts, in my mind, that my parents did a wonderful job of raising us brothers and sisters.
By and large, most of us choose what we're gonna do, then, we make our best attempts to make our dreams come true. I never noticed anything my parents did that was wrong. They were "saintly" people and treated others in the best of ways ... that's why they have no blame, what-so-ever, for things wrong in your life.
Stick your 10 up your a**."
2006-10-02 07:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't. But it is funny to see how all us siblings look at events from our younger years in totally different ways. Same event - it is up to us how to feel about it. Sometimes parents are working with limited skills and could offer no more.
Now - go lay on the floor and close your eyes - think back to those things that you feel wronged over - think of each of those events as a ray extending from your head to the cosmos. Take those events/rays one at a time and rethink them from your parents perspective - it will help you understand and forgive. You have just opened a channel to free yourself. Keep on going.
2006-09-27 09:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I believe that there comes a time in your life when you can no longer blame your parents for who/what you are. you have choices at some point and you can change..not to say it's easy..but if you don't change what you're unhappy about ..who is?
2006-09-27 10:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do blame both of my parents, my mum-she never has treated me fairly (I believe because she was mistreated as a child and just doesn't know what its like to love her daughter(more than her son, she has a lot of her own mum in her)) my dad- because even though he has never left the family he has cheated and he's never here to care that much anyway. i also blame my lies-if i hadn't lied i don't think i would feel guilty everytime i saw her, or spoke to him.....
2006-09-27 09:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋