At school, I'm really quiet. I only talk to my bestest friends. I only talk to people if I need something or I have something to say. People think I'm a loser because I don't talk much. I'm not shy..just introverted. I don't WANT to talk unless i have something to say. I'm so crazy at home..I talk forever and ever. I guess I just feel more comfortable. Is being quiet a bad thing? I get really good grades so I'm not DUMB just because Im quiet.
2006-09-27 09:27:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Don't ever think there is anything wrong with it! I had a so-called-friend. We went out one time with her older sister to the mall, to a concert and to the movies. I'm quiet by nature and most people would call me shy but I hate that term, deep sounds better. Well a couple days went by and this "friend" called me. We talked for a little bit and she ended up calling me a horrible friend and a horrible person. All because I wasn't saying much the whole time we were out and because I didn't enjoy the concert (Celin Dion...really, who under 30 would enjoy it?). This just made my self esteem go down the drain even more and I was shocked.
My point is...don't listen to people when they say that. If you know in your heart that you're just introverted and only talk when something interests you, that does NOT make you a loser or make you dumb! You're comfortable in your own settings and you shouldn't have to change them just to appease a few people that think you're "too shy". My husband always tells me I have a certain mystery about me because I'm quiet and that it's an alluring trait, so no it's not always a bad thing. It can be a bad thing if you're working in an environment where talking is required.
2006-09-27 09:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by H.L.A. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm exactly the same. People always ask me why I'm so quiet or why I never talk, which really gets on my nerves most of the time. But I don't think being quiet is a bad thing. I mean, people never ask loud people why they're always loud or why they talk so much, so why torment the quiet people? If being quiet makes you comfortable, then stick with it. Just know that people probably won't get to know you as well as you want them to if you don't open up once in a while. That's something I've learned from.
2016-03-27 13:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that being quiet is necessarily bad. You sound fine just the way you are.
You don't have to change who you are to please other people. If you do, you'll probably find that you can't please others, no matter what you do.
But if it worries you, read on.
A lot of people think quiet people are stuck-up, or snotty though, even if they're not. So the thing is be 'nice'. What do I mean?
Be polite, say ' hi' to the people you know from your classes, even if you're not friends.
Smile at people, it makes you look more approachable.
You don't have to go up and talk to people just so, just acknowledge that you 'know' them.
Some people have no manners, and if you acknowledge them, they may want to think that you're weird. That's their problem, right? Brush it off and go about your own business.
You might want to join in your school activities, like the debate club if your school has it. It probably sounds like a drag now, but later on it will come in handy. Why? Because it will give you tips on how to interact with people for when you're older.
Also if you join these things, try not to fade into the background. I don't mean that you should be up in people's face all the time, but ensure that you have an input in what's going on.
In the end, of course, it's what you want that's important. Try not to let other people's opinions make you feel bad about yourself. We're all unique. Think how boring life would be if everyone acted the same way!!!
2006-09-27 10:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by vdrt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being quiet is not a bad thing at all...........As long as you talk when someone says something or ask you a question. I was always quiet in school too....Later I I fiound out my two best friends in school both thought I was stuck up! They later learned I was shy(duh! I came from another high school, I didn't know anyone)
Besides I learned to become a great llistener, and you heard the saying,"silence is golden?" Well, sometimes it is!
2006-09-27 09:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a thing is wrong with that. I was that way too in school. I still am. And I got picked on also. It was tough.
As you get older, you'll come out of your shell more and become more comfortable and confident. But don't worry for now, you are who you are and it's normal!
I see the people that picked on me in school and they're losers now, so it's like, "Maybe being quiet wasn't so bad??"
2006-09-27 09:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by mktobyjo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, Its only bad if you never talk to anyone ever. I am mostly quiet but when I am with certain people I can be really loud and that is fun, Either way is OK as long as it is at the right time
2006-09-27 09:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by ♪~♥~♫~♥~♪ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being quiet is a good thing because by listening, you can learn many wonderful things about people, places and things, to form your own opinions. The people who know you will understand and respect you as well!
No one has ever learned much by talking all the time.
2006-09-27 09:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Hootcoot 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IT is not a bad thing to be quiet. People might think your rude but dont be to mean i mean if sumbody to says hi say it back but you dont have to start a convo. IM very quiet n class and i talk to those who speak and only my firends so we are alike. Quiet people tends to learn more and get there work done and your bizz wont be out and around the streetz because you keep your mouth shut. Im very quiet by choice and not by force.
2006-09-27 09:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by miss_ghetto_star 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are seriously just like me. We could be sisters or clones!! It's crazy!! I dont think its a bad thing to be quiet. The best thing abour us is that were not annoying chatterboxes that never shut the hell up. But be yourself.
2014-08-21 08:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
... I'm the same as you. I'm really quiet at school unless I'm talking to my BFFs, and at home, it's oh so amazing ... I'm CRAZY. I talk a LOT at home. I sing and dance all around. So you're not alone! :)
2006-09-27 10:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋