I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and he was latino. And now this hot white guy in my AP Literature is trying to get my number. He's ver nice, smart, and charming and I'm going to give him my number. But this Black guy in my class said that I was a sellout because I had a Latino boyfriend and I'm about to go out with a white guy. Why are people still thinking negatively about interracial relationships?
2006-09-27 09:25:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I am a black woman who dated a white man so far it was the best relationship of my life but not because of our racial differences but our compatibility, and what we both wanted in a relationship.
If you try to live your life based on the opinions, comments, or thoughts of others you will drive yourself crazy because it's impossible to please everyone. Then why would you want to please random strangers who genuinely don't have your best interest at hand. The only thoughts that should take precedence in your actions are yourself.
As for your uncertainty look deeper never mind race, think of all the qualities you seek when in a relationship and get to know him if he fits the bill then I encourage you to date him. And if he doesn't then continue living for you and no one else. Good Luck!
2006-09-29 11:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I come from an interracial relationship/marriage - my mother being part black and my father being all white. My mom got really sensitive from all the stares but my dad would always reassure her how much he loved her and those people didn't matter. This was really important.
Sometimes people are just insecure or scared of something different and maybe this black guy likes you but thinks he won't "measure up" to your standards because as you said this white guy is "really hot". There are some really hot black guys too and Latino, etc., so maybe with him it's a personal thing. I say Go out with who YOU want, forget about that guy's "input". There's always someone somewhere trying to tell someone what to do.
2006-09-27 09:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
White men love Asians and Latinas so white women date black guys.
2016-03-27 13:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are acting stupid when they try to limit people based on race. I am black and I have dated white in the past. I choose people based on who I get along with and who I like. It doesn't matter what race someone is. Interracial relationships will always be frowned upon by some; that's just the sign of a bunch of folk unhappy with their own lives. Don't let those people get to you or make you change.
2006-09-27 09:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by truly 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
And you're right, 2-fister, people turn all the way around to continue staring-- as if you can't see them looking. :) I must admit-- I've tried to look-- when I thought I couldn't be seen-- but from the profound pleasure of noticing how the world is becoming more interesting, broader-minded, and full of such BEAUTIFUL children with the benefits of all the races.
Small-minded people require others to fit into little tiny boxes that their minds can wrap around. If they have profound insecurities about who they are, they either need to find a group over whom they can feel superior, or overinflate their own self-importance in some manner.
2006-09-27 10:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats the way of the world that other guy sounds like a hater I have dated 2 white guys and I am black. he is smart and hot sounds like a catch go for it so what he is white as long as it is not a problem for you or him who cares what anyone else thinks at least that was my attitude.
2006-09-27 09:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by denise e 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a white male and live in the deep South and I date a black woman. No particular reason except that she was attractive, witty, very sweet and kind and we could always make each other laugh and she is my best friend...guess ours hearts are blind! I would say the the man was waiting for you to break up with your other boyfriend and now that you show no interest in him, he is jealous. Some men have very small minds, even in college.
2006-09-28 22:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by drew 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl I don't know what the issue is.. You can date whoever you want.. I'm a Cuban girl with a black boyfriend. People need to get over the fact that people are dating outside their race and ethnicity and should learn to embrace it. Definately give that white boy a chance..
2006-09-27 09:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've dated out of my race, not just white man, asian, latino. Think of the world as a variety pack, you can pick and choose what you want. Those guys need to just grow up
2006-09-27 13:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by freets023 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be you. Do you. Someone will always have something negative to say. You get one life to live and you have the right to find love and happiness with whomever you choose (as long as the person is of legal age).
I am a Black woman and I have dated, Mexican and Puerto Rican but I fell in love with and married a Black man. I don't think you get to choose who you love.
Love is colorless.
2006-09-27 11:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋