pregnancy Risk?

Question

Hi
My wife (29years old) is extremely afraid of getting pregnant. We are married for 4 years and she never had sx without condom. She thinks she will die if she get pregnant. I don't know her medical history before marriage but I am sure she had something related to abortion which she does not want to disclose. Now my question is : if she is able to get pregnant then is there any risk to have a baby assuming there were some medical(abortion type or any other pregnancy related issue) problem before her marriage. I don't need to hear her medical history but she is very crazy about having a child at the same time she is very afraid that she will die if she get pregnant and have a child birth.

Please help.

Answer 1

She should talk to her doctor about her concerns. That is the only person that could really answer this question.

Answer 2

It might not even be a medical problem at all...maybe she has gone thru the tragety of someone who has died during child birth and is scared this will happen to you. I think that if you two have been married for 4 years she would have told you if she had any medical problems in the past having to do with child birth. It would be unfair if her not to tell you, esp. if you want to have kids. The issue about the condom might be that maybe she isnt comfortable enough to have sex without it and this also probably has to do with her fear of getting pregnant. Maybe also she has heard some storied of bad pain or something that has really scared her and she is afraid she wont be able to take the pain. There are many possibilities. Talk to her and ask her to be honest with you. She should be comfortable enough to do that...also one other thing might be that she is afraid she will be a bad mom or not be capable of taking care or a child and be too stressed out and feel like she might "die"...too many possibilites to name.

Answer 3

With Any medical condition there are always risks. Even the mostly healthiest of women can die during childbirth and childbirth deaths used to be somewhat common.

For the last 90 years or so they have tailed off. Now women are identified as problem pregnancies even before they get pregnant.

If you wife is that insanely against bearing her own child I would suggest that she get her tubes tied, and then adopt children. It is a wonderful way to give your love to someone who otherwise might not get it.

You might also try therapy for your wife. She needs to discuss with someone this great fear. It is unusual.

Answer 4

I have never heard of someone dying if they get pregant. If that was the case then she should have had a hysterectomy. Even if she had an abortion it is not going to effect a later pregnancy. Maybe that is her way of telling you that she never wants kids. Also, if you are married it seems to me like you would know most of her past and if she had any type of medical history. You need to know these things if something ever happened to her.

Answer 5

You would have to know her medical history to know if there is some medical condition she has that could be fatal when pregnant. If she did have an abortion, it could all be mental and then she should probably get some therapy if you choose to try and have a child. Good luck!

Answer 6

Ok, so here's my two cents. I think that 1. As your wife, she should level with you about her medical history. If you are legally married, you have the right to know. God forbid something should happen to her and she has to go to the emergency room one day and if all you can say about her medical history is "I don't know"...is not good. Remember, what you don't know...sometimes can kill you. 2. You should have her medical history because something she may not be telling you like "I can't get pregnant because it will kill me. So, you always need to use a condom" just might possibly be a convenient excuse for "You should be wearing a condom to prevent this spread of ______________" (you fill in the blank with any STD "sexually transmitted disease"/condition that comes to mind. You owe it to yourself to protect yourself too. I think you really need to have a big heart to heart talk where she can feel safe in sharing her medical and personal history. You might need some professional help to accomplish this. It's not the worst thing in the world to consult a professional...it is the worst thing in the world to try to fix a difficult situation with out the proper "tools". Good luck to you and your wife.

Answer 7

you can still have a child after having an abortion. You should try to encourage her to speak about it to somebody - you, her doctor, a friend or anyone she is willing to open up to. Only once the root of the problem is discovered, can you ensure that she will be okay. Chances are that she is and would be perfectly fine, but there is a possibility that she has this idea for a reason...

Good luck :)

Answer 8

First of all , how can you say you "dont" need to hear about her medical history. Of course you do, you are now married and now you want to have kids, but yet you want to remain in the dark about her concerns. You need to get more involved in this matter, not just stay out because "she" isnt ready to talk about. Being that it continues to be a secret to you then it must be an embarrassing thing for her that happened to her long ago.

Answer 9

even although he did not ejaculate there change into nonetheless sperm that were given out, it really is merely the way it really is. Now, so long because the condom change into used properly, meaning he positioned it on earlier he all started the have any pre-ejactulation, then you have to be tremendous. No damage, no foul. also, once you've been on the pill for years it takes your body some months, or each and every each and every now and then a year, to get each and every thing set up to surely get pregnant. in case you're quite hectic pass purchase a being pregnant attempt that would attempt early, yet i quite imagine you've no longer something to agonize about.

Answer 10

Talk to her and find out her history and why she feels that she will die. Have her see a doctor and let them be the judge. There shouldn't be any reason that she should be worried about dying if she is healthy and doesn't have any medical conditions. It may be a psychological thing that she is worried about!!

Answer 11

Depending on her medical condition/history, there could be complications with a pregnancy. It sounds to me like she just doesn't want to have kids and is afraid of childbirth. Many people are afraid of pain (I know some who are deathly afraid of needles!) and can you blame her -- YOU won't have to give birth. Talk to her to find out what she's so afraid of...no one here can tell you if it's medical or psychological.