I've known this guy for 10 years. I met him at a social funtion. He was kind of a lonely heart guy who didn't do well socially...he talked like crazy and only about himself and had a hard time making friends...he asked if he could call and maybe do some stuff together...I said sure and we have been friends now over 10 years. He never could find anyone to date...he'd ask they say NO. Well about 5 years ago I had a friend who was just going through a divorce and he met her through me...she was really needing some attention he he was willing to give her all she could take...4 Month's later they married. About 6 Month's into their marriage I called him to see how things were going...he was very rude and said they were busy and hung up the phone. Last year they went through a divorce...she couldn't stand him any longer...he cried to me for 6 Months..she left him. Well I haven't been able to get rid of him for about a year and he met another woman..through me, and now they are dating...he
2006-09-27 08:53:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
treat me like crap again. I refuse to speak to him ever again. This relationship will not last...and I know he'll be around wanting to piggy-back off my social life once again....what would you do?
I really hate to be mean....but!!!!!!!!
2006-09-27 08:54:31 · update #1
You are not being mean at all - he is an emotional drain on you and draining all of your fun! He wasnt veru social to begin with and it is NOT right for him to depend on you to be his social lfe.......he met the girl through you, cried to you, leeched on to you after 10 years of not talking to you.......... you should not feel obligated to talk to him again, he has been, in a way, using you to have the social life he cant have....for example: after you introduce him to a woman, how does he repay you???? With rude, snide comments and no communication. But when that all comes crashing down, he comes crawling back to you and expects you to do it all over again? That is not right ..... he needs to grow up, get some confidence in himself, and maybe then he will realize what stress he put you through, and how he was COMPLETELY in the wrong..
To sum it up, do not talk to him untill he gets a grip on his own life - he cant go through life with this leeching tendency.
I hope this advice helped you, and i hope your friend sees his mistakes.
Dr. Brian
2006-09-27 09:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Just don't be available. It's not your fault he can't either make friends or relationships work. You are not an emotional punchbag.
As well, women are going to start avoiding you like the plague if there is any chance of you trying to pair them up with him!
2006-09-27 17:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him alone tell him to get a life of his own and stop messin with yours. He is just an emotional train wreck and i think you need to just leave him alone when he comes around again refuse to have anything to do with him.
2006-09-27 15:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do exactly what you are doing right now. I would tell him exactly what I though about how he treated me, exactly what he was doing, and let him know that I'm done, and go find another friend to use and abuse. Stick to your guns and stick up for yourself, because he's not going to change.
2006-09-27 15:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Maico 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he wants to be only a rainy weather friend. You don't need that kind of grief. Let the friendship cool.
2006-09-27 16:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by g49joeybethl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd just cut him loose. Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me!
2006-09-27 15:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Chrispy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you don't like the way he has treated you, and to go live his own life. stay out of yours. what are you afraid of? are you afraid of losing his friendship? you are not losing anything by telling him to beat it.
2006-09-27 16:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to take a hike he is just useing you for the women you know he is a chump
2006-09-27 16:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur jst a support system for him...when he needs you he comes to you...be straight with him...let him know that u dont wanna be frnds with him..will work out best
2006-09-27 15:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds selfish. when he calls next time, tell him to find someone else to cry to.
2006-09-27 16:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋