Example: My husband is 42 and I am 22 We have been married for 1 year and very happy. We have two children and I have one step child. We have both been divorce for the same reason and have great jobs. What would you think about this relationship? Would you do it? Would your family accept you and him for your happiness?
2006-09-27 08:44:18 · 30 answers · asked by Pinky Stinky 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Lol....I am so glad!
I am 26 and my husband is 40. We have been married 2 years now and I have 2 step-children, 1 of our own...and now one more due in 3 weeks. Neither of us was married before.
My mom is 10 years older than her 3rd husband.
Normally I would say age gaps that big were just wrong, because men and women are so different emotionally, but then again, since it takes men longer to mature...you really should be about at the same level at that point. Then there are the comments that your husband must really like them young - well...you are over 18 for one thing, and he's obviously made a commitment to you, instead of using you for one thing only.
Who is to say what love is limited to? If you get along, if the relationship works, you are happy, he is happy..and the kids are happy - what the hell is wrong with that?
My mother never had a problem when I told her about the age difference. She had more of an issue about where we met lmao. But like I said - its been 2 years now.
Good luck to you and yours!
2006-09-27 08:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answer is kind of double sided, i believe that all people are different and if you have found someone you are truely happy with then that is great, however in most cases in the beginning it is forbidden, and fun, but later the age difference does tend to cause problems, b/c as we grow and age, there may be things that you want to do b/c of your age that he doesnt, your hormones are still running crazy, his are all settled down... how long did yall date, cause i see in your question you say yall have 2 kids, but only been married 1 year? my other question would be how old is your step child? another thing i dont understand is if you are talking about yourself, you must be having some sort of second thoughts to even pose this question? or maybe you are just having alot of problems with yalls families over this, and that really does not help things. the first and second question you ask i cant really answer, b/c there is more to someone than their age. as for the last question, although i love my family dearly if they were not accepting of the person i chose to spend my life with then that would be there choice... and i would just hope that one day they would see what i see in the person i love.
2006-09-27 09:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedmomof3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the two of you are happy and in love with each other, then who cares what anyone else has to say!!!
I am 55 and he is 34, 20 yrs and 5 months age difference and we've been together for 10 years!!! My kids are grown, in fact, my daughter is 3 years younger than he is and she never had a problem with it. I've got 3 grandkids, 8 yrs, 6 weeks and 3 weeks old. Both of our respective families do not have a problem with it, they all accept us for who we are and that we make each other happy!!
No matter what, people will have something to say just because they aren't happy within thier own situation and they like to hear themselves express thier opinion thinking that they know it all when in reality, they don't!!!!
Trust me, I've been married and divorced twice and the man I'm with now is the best ever!!! We love each other for who we are and enjoy each other to the fullest!! So, don't listen to anyone, just listen to your heart and you will have the best of the best in life!
2006-09-27 09:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by suzi i 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen many relationships like yours and they are all very happy. I am 25 and used to date men in their 40s but then I decided I wanted to marry someone closer to my age. I think it all depends on the two people. If they are happy and committed to marriage then I see nothing wrong with it. My parents weren't always "excited" that I was dating someone so much older but they never scorned them either.
If I had not wanted someone to go through "life's stages" together with I probably would have married someone that much older as me as well.
I say good for you and I wish you the best years ahead of you :)
2006-09-27 08:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Honestly told 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because through regulation you're nevertheless a minor...and at the same time as age would not continually ought to count number, it does at the same time as it breaks the regulation. yet another element is understand your mom. It of route irks her and makes her anxious! She's older than you with extra experience in existence and love, pay interest to her. once you're legally an man or woman and would cavort off and do inspite of you please it could be diverse...yet you're a minor residing consisting of your mum and dad. If this guy changed into somewhat that being concerned then he'd wait, which nevertheless seems extraordinary. television has glorified searching youthful and relationship older and youthful human beings....in spite of the indisputable fact that it really is only unusual. did you recognize him...or understand him nicely? have you ever conventional him for such extremely many years that you recognize he would not through mendacity to you only for some kicks? you're 'mature' yet you lack existence experience. That being suggested- take the advice of the adults round you and rather of complaining study a element or 2.
2016-11-24 22:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by kimsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, there seems to be lots of acceptance when an older man marries a younger woman. Lots of times its because the woman is already mature, and the man is not mature till 40. So more power to ya!
2006-09-27 08:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by baseballandbbq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy, why not? There have been marriages with more disparate ages!
People mature psychologically at different rates and it's the marriage of minds that's important. Sometimes families and friends have difficulty seeing this, so that is their problem! They will come to accept it, the better they get to see how happy you are.
May you continue to enjoy each other!
2006-09-27 08:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds a lil weird, but if u guys r happy thats all that matters. I'm a male, and if I were to date or marry some one 20 yrs older I don't think they(friends,family) would like it much. Also, well I don't knowif I would consider it myself, depends on the person.
2006-09-27 08:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did it and wound up a widow at the age of 46, two years ago. He was 61. We were together for 22 years. When I was your age I never even DREAMED things would turn out like this! So in SOME ways age CAN matter...it's just HOW you handle your lives that will make the difference.
We had no kids together since I couldn't carry to full term. It didn't matter anyway because his three were in their teens when we were married. I took a lot of flack from them (as well as my family). My five siblings all have kids. My half sister has five kids who have kids. My full sister has TWELVE!!!!! My oldest brother has two girls and my youngest brother has two boys left (he lost a son to SIDS and a daughter and his first wife to an auto accident when his daughter was only five back in 85).
Just make _double_ sure you both plan for the financial security of the other should one of you die prematurely.... And DEFINITELY since men die on average of 10 years younger than the average of women. This includes good financial habits NOW like NOT getting in debt, getting funerary arrangements for your whole family, life insurance for your whole family in as large amount as you can get. ETC.
When I was widowed, we had no assets for debtors to go after. If you have assets any debt will have to be paid by liquidating and using those assets. This is why you should NOT rack up any more debt than you absolutely HAVE to!!! Make sure you have property insurance that includes paying off any real estate you own if you can.
I am now completely destitute due to the fact that I am disabled and can't get anyone to give me a chance at a job. Before, I was always able to just walk in and go to work! I'm not used to this not being able to get a job if/and/or/when I want to! I'm having to live with a friend. Without him I would be on the streets!
When my husband died he didn't have life insurance or even a plot for me to put him in. I LITERALY had do bury his ashes (his brother-in-law insisted on and paid for the cremation) MYSELF in a plot his parents left near here when they moved several states away, died and were buried there.
When my late husband got sick I was in college going after an AS in Computer Technology. I couldn't finish getting my degree because I had to quit to take care of him until he died. I can't go back because my fees were being paid for by Vocational Rehabilitation and I have to work for three consecutive years before they'll pay for me to go back to school again. I'm now 48 and not only suffering the disability discrimination thing but also the age discrimination thing, too. Yes it's illegal but it's still done anyway!!! Business finds loopholes in every law it can!
These things are something you both NEED to think about. The time to ACT is NOW ...ESPECIALLY because of your husband's age. Later on insurance companies will be harder to find that will sell you the policies you will HAVE to have!
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-27 08:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by x_southernbelle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should be telling us, if you are in that situation. Is it too old??
Who cares what 'we' or anyone else thinks?
I would do it, if it made me happy & i wanted to be with the person for the rest of my life.
I hope & think that my family would accept, if they dont, fock 'em. You have to do what makes you happy in your life ... unless there is a specific reason that they dont accept him (besides a number)...
2006-09-27 08:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by DaDirtySouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋