is telling your parents your gay really that hard?

Answer 1

Yeah...it's really,really hard...

Answer 2

Telling your parnets can be hard for in individual. The fear of rejection from your parents can be a very large and realistic fear. You may lose some sort of finacial support, you may lose your home and other material possesions. It all depends upon the individual and his parents.

However, when you do tell them expect the worse, anything more than that is great. They will no doubt be shocked. Even if they suspected it before. The intial shock to being told can cause all sorts of bad reactions. This is normal and typically they will come around once they have had time to deal with the shock.

Best thing that can be done is be honest, and be ready. Don't respond to anything they say or do in a negative way. It will only worsen the event. Instead realize that this is a reaction simply from shock, and most likely in time will come around.

Answer 3

Yeah its very hard, because you go into this whole coming out thing not knowing if your parents accept it or not. If they don't accept it, its three times as hard to tell them the words.

Thankfully there are some parents that could care less about your sexuality that they try everything they can to make you feel better and not scared about being who you are.

Then there are some that can't accept the fact and end up taking drastic measures by kicking their kids out of the house all because they were born that way.

To me its very hard for kids to come out to their parents, but then again it was hard back in the days where gay men would be killed because of it not being accepted anywhere.

Answer 4

Well that all depends on how your parents are. Are they set back in the old school ways? Are they bigoted against gays? Even if one thhinks that the parents will be open for a child to tell them he/she is gay, the answer is yes. Because deep down most that tell thier parents or friends wonder wether they will be accepted or tossed away.

Answer 5

It depends on the individual circumstances. I would never in a pazillion years tell my parents. They are older, settled, and they do not need their lives disrupted with this kind of information. They would not be supportive at all. For some folks their parents are very accepting and very supportive.

Answer 6

As Lotus Phoenix said about gay runaways.

I used to work as a counselor for a GLBTQ community center. I ran group sessions with GLBTQ teens. Many of these teens were shunned by their families of origin because of their sexuality. Some where phsycially abused, some were emotionally abused...repetitively before they either left or were kicked out of their parents homes.
These kids were known as "disposible" kids. As soon as they no longer lived up to their parents expectations of who they are, their parents abused, neglected and disposed of their own flesh and blood children!

Many of these kids had/have attempted suicide on several occassions. Many turn to prostitution to earn money just to survive or to fund their drug habits to drown the pain of having been abused.
Being "disposed of" by one's parents only begins a cycle of self abuse and self-destructive behavior, sometimes just to feel alive. These kids don't know what being alive feels like unless it hurts!

So, yes, telling your parents you are gay IS REALLY THAT HARD! It's also, sometimes, THAT DANGEROUS!

Answer 7

"really hard" for whom? Blurting out the words takes some courage. Living with the result is another issue.

Why do you need to tell them? What is your purpose? They may already know, parents can be pretty perceptive at times. But what if they don't and disapprove? Is your "release" worth their grief?

Answer 8

depends on you, depends on the parent. If your dad just came from bashing queers...don't tell him until you out of his house, out of state!!!!!

We always say BE HONEST but for a 14 year old kid, being honest could also mean being beat up by you parents and/or being homeless (why do you think so many kill themselves).

My parents would be fine (my mom would still insist on having grandchildren however) but my friend who is gay...his mom cried for weeks!!!!!!! and still won't acknowledge it even though she's nice to his boyfriends, she puts her head in the sand.

Answer 9

When I was 8 my father told me that if ever heard I was gay he'd disown me, beat me pulp and leave me in a ditch somewhere, he emphasized that it didn't even have to be true, he just had to hear it. He was never a meaning-full part of my life after that, and we didn't reconcile until a few months before his death, after he knew he was terminal. Would you have come out to such a man?

Answer 10

My mum went spastic when I said I was sick of men abusing me and thought I was having more feelings for other girls.
She told me it was just a phase in puberty or something even though I was like 16/17 at the time, but I'm still liking girls, I'm just Bi, but she won't talk about it, she wants me to have boyfriends.
As for my Dad! He doesn't even know my bday, my number or where I live. He hasnt visited a single one of my homes since I left. He's still with my mum, he just doesn't even know me.

Answer 11

I imagine that even with the best relationships it can be at best an awkward moment. Bit like telling your parents you lost your virginity type of thing

Parents tend to place their own values, dreams and goals on to their children. We tend to expect so much from them and they are only kids. Look at the number of nutty sports mom and dads - I sure wouldn't want to have to tell them about my sexuality.