My husband is in the air force and i work for a cell phone company we both make plenty of moneyand have more than enough. we have a fully furnished house and a new car. we have been married a year and a half. we are ready but our families think we are too young. does it matter what they think or am i really too young????
2006-09-27 08:24:36 · 35 answers · asked by Jessica 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No I don't think you are too young. You might want to consider alot of things though things like are you ever going to be able to go out without baby, ect. Anyway as long as you're stable in both of your jobs then you should go ahead and try for a little one. Remember the most important hing you can provide a child is love.
2006-09-27 08:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your mariage strong? Do you have savings? What will you do after your baby is born? How far are you from family who will help? Are you healthy? These are questions you and your husband should ask. If you are 19 and married for a year and a half that means you got married around 17 years old. Did you finish school? Do you have a Plan like your husband will stay in the A.F. or will he get out after 4yrs what jobs can he get? Do you have councling available on base can you go talk to a professional? Do you own you house? How long until you pay off the car and house? Can you get some type of training or education to improve your employment? What about your husband is he willing to go back to school?
Did you know a college degree can greatly increase your income?
Are you looking for validation of the decision you've already made?
I'm sorry but I feel you probaly should wait for 3 to 5 more years.
2006-09-27 08:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Timothy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have plenty of money. I was in the Air Force and I know what the salaries are, and even as a Major, I had problems making ends meet. Are you too young to start a family? No! Now's the time, so that when your kids are 18 and leave the nest, you're still young enouth to enjoy the rest of your lives.
But are you really financially able to afford a child, or more than one? I doubt it! Have you considered ALL the expenses in raising childen? I doubt it. Consider the cost of college 18 or 20 years from now. What about child care? will you still have to work after the child is born? If the answer is yes, you need to consider those costs. What if you or your husband are injured or killed so that one income is gone. Could you still afford to raise that child?
My advice is look at ALL the ramifications of becoming parents, before the blessed event.
2006-09-27 08:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question for you and your husband, certainly not strangers and not even your family. You are very young, but it sounds like you two have made a stable home for yourselves and the decision of when to start a family is up to you two. Keep in mind, though, that your lives will change in a major way and you might want to consider that since your husband is in the air force, the day to day routines and majority of the work may fall on you. You two have your whole lives to have a family and you may want to have a little fun first, just the two of you. Children are a blast and I am sure they will have a loving home, but they are also a lot of work and they change the whole dynamic of the marriage. Good Luck no matter what you do; you sound like a pretty level headed person and I am sure you'll do what is right for you.
2006-09-27 08:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by taylor619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have yourself fairly well set up. I had my first child at 19 and you are doing way better than I was. Consider this... Are you ready to give up the freedom that you have now? If you choose to have a baby will your families accept your choice and support you or will they insist your choice was made in error if you seek their support? (Not money, I mean emotional since the first few months with a baby = big stress & no sleep)
If finances aren't a problem and you know that you have enough patience and love to give and are ready for the responsibility then it should not matter what your families think. As long as you and your husband are on the same page with it, I say go for it.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 08:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are OK. If he is in the military then you have good insurance and you have a home and a car, so the only thing left is are you ready to be responsible for another human life. You will be its mother 24-7 and it is a big responsibility.My wife and I was 19 and 17 and we have been married 19 years and our son is 19 and in his second year of college and he is wonderful so it will be alright. It is going to depend on you and your husband.
2006-09-27 08:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to wait a few years. You and your husband are young and you both should take the time to travel and just be a couple.
There are many things to consider when having a child. You mentioned a dual income household, have you decided if you will to continue working or stay at home? Could you both survive on one income and maintain the same lifestyle? And, with the status quo of the military, could you potentially handle being a single mother for lengths of time?
Just think it through and talk it out with your husband.
2006-09-27 08:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are in a very stable place to have a child. You could wait a little longer, and enjoy just being married, but if you and your husband want a baby, I'd say go for it. Your family doesn't know everything, I'm guessing they thought you were too young to get married when you did that too.
2006-09-27 08:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by S. O. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was in the same situation as u. Her hubbie is in the navy and she has a good job too but doesnt have a house she rents and has her car too.
She is now 5 months Preg. She is 19 too.
U seem like u are mature and ready its all on u and ur hubby now. i mean it is young and with him in the military it will be a lot of baby moments missed. my friends hubbies leaves for deploitment to korea for like 7 months after the baby is born. Thats the only "sucky" part :(
How long does he have till he is done? consider waiting till he is done and if u guys dont care and u taking car of the baby by urself till he gets back u seem like u have everything else u need...
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-27 08:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by SHYBABIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me you have your affairs in order. A lot of the time the reason why being 19 would be too young is that you're just starting out. It seems to me you're well established. If your husband and you want to have a baby, then no amount of caterwalling from your family should make a difference.
2006-09-27 08:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by J C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋