thanks for everyones approval on this..those who did. SUPPORT is the best help right now. im making the right choice. because i want to have a child and be able to care for it and love it properly. if i do have this child, adoption is not an option afterwards. itll be mine and ill have to deal with that. in the mean time, i could see myself falling away and my child would suffer. i cannot do this to a baby. there are TOO MANY other unwanted children out there as it is. why add on!? this has nothing to do with GOD, im not rebating religious beliefs, i simply dont believe in God at all and i am not considering him in my decision. sorry to all your bible humpers. get over it. to those calling me a "murderer" say what you will..but try putting yourself in MY situation..it was a mistake that any one could've made. i made it and im sorry, to the baby, but its not time right now. you can hate, but i will move on. its pro choice, if it were really "murder" it wouldnt be legal nor supported.
2006-09-27 08:17:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what are we supposed to answer? this is really long.
2006-09-27 08:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by cubs_gurl_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you made your choice.. I'm a little taken back that you would turn to asking it on yahoo answers to help you make your choice....
When I got pregnant with my now 1 y/o son.. He was very much unwanted.. I hated HIM my entire pregnancy! I thought about abortion on a daily basis.. (he was my second child.. my first is now 7) I was super depressed and anxious and wanted to kill everyone around me and have myself admitted to the psych ward at the local hospital... it was truly horrible..
My first child. I got pregnant with her september of my senior year in highschool.. I had her 10 days after I graduated highschool.. all my plans for college and everything else went out the window....
I'm 25 years old now...I worked as a nursing assistant and made ok money.. when she was a little older, i put her in daycare and I went to become an lpn in 9 months.. now I'm a nurse working for an agency making 26 dollars an hour.
Anyways.. I'm not trying to change your mind.. I don't even know you and I fully support the choice you make... I just wanted to tell you about myself.. I've been there.. The future is scary.. not knowing things is even more scary...
I didn't know how I was going to take care of my daughter.. but I did it... Things just have a way or working out...
As for my son... All the "hatred" I had for him the entire time I was pregs... It went away the moment he was born...
I don't know what my life would be like if I didn't have these kids..
Make sure you have a support person to talk to after your procedure..it's a major decision that's not easy to make.. and even though you feel it's the best one.. it's still going to take some time to get over and you're going to need to lean on someone..
Good luck!
2006-09-27 15:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by SassySista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read your other posts so I would know what you were talking about. First you not believing in God is your business; but he is real. Second, abortion is not a form of birth control. You got pregnant, you knew how to prevent it, but yet you are just going to kill the baby without giving it a second thought. And yes it is a baby already, I don't care if it is the size of a peanut! There are plenty of women on here and everywhere that would do anything to have a baby, and here you are blessed to get pregnant and just going to get rid of it likes its some piece of trash. You could have easily given your baby up for adoption if you couldn't handle a child right now in your life. Next time think about the consequences before doing the act.
2006-09-27 15:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you made the decision to have the baby is because you are ready to became a parent, and that is not easy. But, if you decide to simply is not the right moment then you are right about not having the baby. You have all my support.
Listen, children are the best, and the most difficult parts in our life, I can tell you that it will be the most wonderful experience because they are there always for you, and you are experimenting the process of seeing somebody that is growing after you, following your steps. But, we have to admit that is a HUGE responsibility, you will not have the time for everything that YOU like, now the world of one became two and one of them doesn't understand that sometimes you can't.
If you have the choice to decide what is the best for you right now, it will be definitively the right decision, because if you have the baby you are ready to confront everything (financially speaking too) but if you didn't it is because you are not in that position and is better that the child doesn't goes trough that.
2006-09-27 15:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by success532 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make comment about people making judgements and then you call names.
I understand your mixed emotions in this....am sure there have been many anxious moments.
However, you did state it was a mistake you made. Why make one further one?
It is also not the fault of this baby for its conception. That was you and your partners responsibility.
If you choose to end this pregnancy thru abortion, it is the taking of a life.
There will be consequences for that.
Not only are you putting the baby at risk of death but yourself physically also.
IThanks to the legal system of this world, it is your legal choice but you must remember you are making a choice for three.
Praying for you!
May you find the peace you seek in this.
2006-09-27 15:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are right it is your decision whether or not to have an abortion. So why come on here and post all of these different questions knowing you are going to get mixed reactions and people calling you names for killing an unborn child?
Second, if you don't want children, keep your legs closed or use some form of birth control. Abortion may be legal, but that doesn't make it right. Is it easier to have unprotected sex and then pay for an abortion and kill a baby than it is for you to take a pill or have him put a condom on??
2006-09-27 15:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by journey rocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were a mistake you should of never put yourself in the position to make a mistake you can't handle! maybe you should believe in the Lord because you need something. Yes abortion is murder, and it is legel and supported just as well as the death penalty! Have and abortion and you deal that is not my place to judge, but don't down people when you must of askes the question in the first place. With as selfish as you are I'm glad your not bring a child in this world!
2006-09-27 15:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, in the end we all have to answer for our choices, good or bad, so it's important to do what you feel is right. Good luck to you but mind telling me why adoption is not an option? As a childless woman who would love to pamper and care for a child, as a person who have friends on waiting lists to adopt, I'm just curious as to why adoption is not an option. There's even something called "open adoption" where you still get to be a part of the child's life, maybe have visitation right or maybe just be entitled to receive photos of the child and progress reports, it varies from area to area and from case to case, but I'm just curious. Again, good luck.
2006-09-27 15:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I dont know which state you live in but there are things to do to help others in your situation, like be a pro-choice speaker.
Go to Plannedparenthood.com and they will assit you in any efforts you would like to make towards volunteering. If its not your thing you, thats okay some women just find it comforting to have others with the same problems to talk to. Now get out there take care of ****, and go on with your life!!!!
2006-09-27 15:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥RN♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap is your choice. You are not ready and you see this. I only agree with it if it is done on time and by law. This is your life and you made a mistake never forget and learn from your mistakes. Move on. But if you do this every month and your getting pumped out all the time then I don’t respect you. Good Luck
2006-09-27 15:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by skankhater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is clear you have made your choice. You are just one of thousands of women who make this choice every day,. You use this as a easy way out. Well Let me just say this, GOD is real, Anyone who doesent belive in him if faceing torment for eternity. to burn in HELL for ever.God made everything includeing you and the baby your wanting to kill. May GOD help You. You have my prayers.
2006-09-27 15:41:59 · answer #11 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋