Today was my daughters 21st birthday, but sadly she passed away 14yrs ago, although I think about her almost every day, today I felt no sadness even though it was her 21st, am I wrong to feel this way, should I be feeling sad or guilty for not feeling sad, or is exceptance the only way forward?
2006-09-27 08:17:23 · 8 answers · asked by Panther 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She would want you to remember her through all the good and the sad times. She would not have wanted you feeling sad or guilty for the rest of your life but to be happy and remember the time that you spent togther
2006-09-27 08:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don' think you should feel guilty for not being sad, I know that losing a child is one of the most painful things in life. The reason you probably don't feel that sad no more; is that your heart is healing from the lost of your child, and your mind won't let you forget. So don't feel guilty nor sad just remember she is one of the angels that looks after you day and night!!!!
2006-09-27 15:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Christine M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong, time heals somewhat. my son turns 21 next month and I'm scared to death. you don't have to worry about her drinking and driving that would be a relief, not one that i would want of course, but it's a scary world out there for kids when they turn 21 and have to make those decisions. I guess one thing it meas for you is that you've had closeure, some people go a long time for that.
I am sorry to hear of your loss even though it's been 21 yrs.
2006-09-27 15:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to feel acceptance because you need to get over ur sadness already. She already died for a while, just pray to god because you will see her in the resurrection. Don't worry. My condolenses for u even though its too late. Try to forgive her death too for a while so that u won't get depressed by keeping urself busy. Hope it works and may god be with u u poor man.
2006-09-27 15:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by d8jk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it still holds enough significance for you to post this question....twice. You have reached the last stage of the grief process, acceptance. You understand to the innermost fiber of your soul that she is not hurting and is at peace, and so should you be. Honor her memory in whatever way you feel necessary, or none at all. My condolences, belatedly.
2006-09-27 15:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not feel guilty. You have not forgotten her, you still miss her. She would not want you spending the rest of your life grieving. She would be glad to know that you loved her enough to move on but keep her memory alive i your heart. My heart goes out to you.
2006-09-27 15:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't wrong. She has been gone for a long time. Go forward with your life and always remember her. She would want it that way.
2006-09-27 15:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it not .
2006-09-27 15:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋