My man is an alcoholic. He was sober for the first 6 months of our relationship (when I fell in love with him). We live together now for a year and he calls himself dad to my one year old baby. He goes thru these binge drinking stages once he did not come home for 3 days. He was told that if that ever happened again I would be gone. Well it happened again - I don't trust him but I love him. What do I do?
2006-09-27 08:12:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Deep down you probably know what is best for you, and more important, your baby.
2006-09-27 08:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a problem. Check out Al-anon. This is a support group for people who love someone who is addicted. You will get a lot of support from people who know how to set limits with the addicted people in their lives. You will also learn about co-dependent relationships.
It's very difficult when you love someone you don't trust. Perhaps you could get some counselling together to find ways to work through it together. If he wants sobriety and wants you, then this is a strong possibility.
I would also recommend that you both read the following book. The woman who wrote it has an 80% success rate treating people with alcoholism, that is they don't go out and binge every now and then. I don't believe the current method of treating alcoholism is effective and that's a problem with the professionals out there who say it's a disease. Here's another viewpoint.
Best of luck.
2006-09-27 08:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend that goes on binges..I tried to help him. He came to live with me and caused a lot of problems.
Here's what I would do in your shoes, I would find a Victory Outreach church. Now please I'm not trying to get you into religion, it's just that they run half way houses and know about this problem.
My pastor is the director of the half way house and has helped many people with drinking problems.
I would tell your boyfriend he's required to go each sunday if he wants to stay with you, maybe you will have to take him. He will meet others that have the same problem and in time will listen to them and seek help. Anyway I help you seek help somewhere because I know how crazy it can be with someone like this.
2006-09-27 09:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go. If not for your sake then for the sake of your child. Alcoholism is a lifetime struggle. He needs to go to AA meetings for the rest of his life to keep this under control. The binging wont stop and you can see that now. Relationships are hard enough as it is without adding in this problem.
2006-09-27 08:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well at least we know that he cares for your child. Its really hard to make this choice but what if he in the features hit you for being to dunk u got to think in yourself and your kid.
2006-09-27 08:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Denise V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break free. Or you'll both be chronic depressives. If he wants you back, make him join AA.
2006-09-27 08:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ahh leave him! have him detox or join AA if its that bad and u wanna stay with him
2006-09-27 08:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by nick_in_miami 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave until he gets help... attend AA with him.
2006-09-27 08:15:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋