he has remarried as have I. He says he loves me too but also loves his wife. I want to fly to see him to spend a couple of days with him. Secretly at a hotel. His wife hired an investigator and already caught us once. But we are being much more careful. Should I go see him?????
2006-09-27 08:07:43 · 29 answers · asked by patricia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
2 years ago my husband left me a week after leaving me he met a girl had a baby lived together... just 3 months ago we started talking again now he lives back at home with our kids and me... he says its weird but he expected that.. When his ex found out about us she threw a fit (i have gotten called so many names by her) let me tell you things never go back to the way they once were he tell me he loves me but i see how difficult this is on him. good luck think positive and know this when men HAD the best woman for them and go to another and start coming back around the other woman wasn't holdin things down for her man they always find out the grass ain't greener on the other side...
2006-09-27 08:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by mmmgirl62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 15:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal. All men play this game. They are married to someone else and thinks they can call their EX because they want their EX back. No!!!!!
The reason why he is your ex husband is because there was something that made the two of you file for Divorce. Please be the smarter one to say NO I DON'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU!!
You should not be in a hotel room or anywhere else with that man. He treated you with no respect and left you. What makes you think if both of you remarried that he would not do the same thing to you which is Cheat.
He is cheating on his wife and you are cheating on your husband. Your husband the person that picked up the pieces of your heart and to mend it back together. You and your EX is taking advantage on your husband. What would your husband say if he found out? Better yet would you like if your Ex happen to slip up to someone that knows your husband about "your Secret relationship"?
Bottom line is your Ex-husband is going to always sweet talk you so that you can leave the man that loves you. Once you are back with the EX he his going to cheat cheat and cheat on you.
How would you feel if your husband was cheating on you? What would you do? Actually how would you feel if I was your husband answering your question?
2006-09-27 08:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves his wife and yet you are going to have an affair with her husband? You are going to tear up another life and home for him? Do you just want him because you know you can't have him? That is the only thing that makes sense since you divorced him. Ex-wives should stay out of their husbands lives. Is your second husband having an affair on you? How would you feel if he did? You might try some counseling, it's not that uncommon of a thing for a wife to think she might want her ex back. There was a reason for the divorce. Best Wishes!!
2006-09-27 08:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO , this is sooooooooooo stupid on so many levels.
If he cheats with you he will cheat on you.
The two of you are experienceing good memories of the past and are acting on them. How would you feel if your husband was flying to see his x wife or gf?
Why even get married if you can't be faithful to someone?
Why even bother? You are just acting on lust feelings and that has little to do with love.
Can you imagine the mess this world would be in if everyone did this? Why not just have a big orgie? Geesh
I think you have a demented version of what love is. And also it is possible to love someone and desire them but for reasons you can't commit to each other. And we all have people in our past that we love but can't be with.
You are like addicted to the rush of the forbidden fruit.
If you want to F your life up continue to do what you are doing.
Otherwise get some morals and be faithful to your husband that you have now. And geesh what kind of creep is he to be with you when he is married. I imagine you are not the only one that he sees on the side. Pretty Cheep and shallow don't you think?
2006-09-27 08:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Dont go if you guy's are gonna be together do it the right way. You deserve your own man which you have. Nothing good will come of the situation. I know you love him but you all called it quits for a reason so remember that. You are also making it 2 easy for him.A man will not make a choice if he doesnt really have 2. He has 2 know what he's missing. Trust me he will see.Maybe when he does you guys can do it a second time around. Also that isnt fare to the woman he married.Thats her man.If you all are meant to be then it will be no matter what.Your flesh will hurt for a while but your heart will hurt for enternity if you dont let it go.Let the past be the past.
2006-09-27 08:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what you should think about is why ya'll got the divorce in the first place. When you feel like you want to be with him just think of all the bad thinks and hopefully you will decide not to mess around with him. And remember that you have a husband at home that loves you and only you. I wouldn't go!
2006-09-27 08:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, he's an ex husband for a reason...You both made the choice to move on and get remarried. What are you living in the past for? What has your current spouses done to make you both such deceitful, awful people? You both need to grow up, keep your pants up and be real w/ your current spouses. They don't want to be w/ cheating dogs anymore than you guys want to have to sneak around.
2006-09-27 08:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still so in love with each other why don't divorce again and remarry, don't lie to your current husband. You're cheating on him and that's wrong but you love your ex-husband so I think that is the best thing to do.
2006-09-27 08:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bokworks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you made this up. If so... very creative question. If true... OMG. That poor stupid woman for staying with that stupid man. You two deserve each other. Maybe your husband could get hooked up and have an affair with his wife? Or qwait even better yet... all of you could move to Utah and live in a commune and swap bodily fluids.
2006-09-27 08:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Hillary Dillary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋