To clearify, I'm not talking about marriage based on a piece of paper, or based on money, or arranged marriages, etc. I'm talking about marriage based on love.
Why do some of you think marriage is stupid. and why do some of you think marriage is great?
2006-09-27 07:56:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Mavis - I think it's a misconception to think that if your partner make you complete, that their relationship is weak. Here's a thought, if one feels so complete without anyone else, their relationship with a partner could be weak because your so "complete" on your own, that you only want someone else in your life as an added bonus to things you have. They're just secondary element to you, not too important. If this person died, it'd be no big deal, you'd get over them eventually as if they had little impact on your life because you didn't really need them in the first place.
However, if you need someone to complete you in such a way that no matter how abusive, you'd stay with them. & because you simply don't want to be alone. & because you don't know how to get a job and pay your bills without them, thats weak.
But feeling emotionally destroyed if you lost this person, feeling completed in the way that your so much happier with them, wouldnt want to live without, thats golden.
2006-09-27 19:50:44 · update #1
I don't think it's stupid. I do believe that some people are not suited for it.
2006-09-27 07:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage as in commitment to another individual because you love them? If I were to marry, I don't think I'd have kids- never wanted any. I wouldn't be marrying to 'make a family' in other words. Heck, marriage is'nt even necessary if that was what I wanted.
I don't think that I'd marry to complete myself. If one marries because they don't feel like they are complete without their partner, I think the marriage would be weak in many cases.
It depends on why someone is getting married. It is great if someone is doing it for the right reasons and expecting the right things from it. Unless you are only concerned about yourself and not the world around you, careing for another person couldn't be bad.
Or maybe it all works as long as you don't grow apart.
Mavis knows
edit:
Yes, you are definatly right about that. Maybe I'm thinking more that the person should be happy with themselves more than just being 'complete'
I'd guess that your partner would have to complete you in some way.
2006-09-27 15:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe it is stupid. It is always better to know that what you are doing is with the man you know you will be spending the rest of your life with and the man who knows that you have never been with another man in your life, and to know that no one else has touched you but one. If other people don't wait until marraige, I guess that there should be three important factors in having a sexual relationship. 3 factors: responsibility love passion these three factors are important if you are missing one, then what is the point. responsibility: you have to be aware of all the possible consequences that will happen. Ex: disease and pregnancies( I think pregnancy is the worst of the best; disease on the other hand are something you will have to live with all your life that might even cause you to lose it.) love: without love it just seems like you just do it and get it over with, it doesn't matter who you do with it. passion: not enjoyable, you don't desire one another, and it could be boring. Nothing is better than being with the person you love and passion in which everything results. Do what you think is best. I believe in marraige, but at the same time I believe in the other part I wrote. It is just a matter of not letting other tell you what to do.
2016-03-27 13:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 10 years. The first 7-8 years were at times quite difficult, and I toyed with the idea of divorce it seems on a weekly basis, lol. My hubby and I had our only child...things went downhill, he had an affair. Surprisingly enough, I was able to forgive him and move on. We talked at length about the reasons for his infidelity, and I understood and believed him. Now, our marriage is stronger and we're more in love than ever.
The advantages of marriage are numbered and varied. You get into a groove with your spouse, if the marriage is happy, and the comfort you feel is wonderful. It's also so exciting to get to know your mate continually over a lifetime partnership. Just when you think you know them completely, you learn something new. There is a comradarie in a joyful marriage that is unrivalled in any other type of relationship...your spouse is your best friend, your # 1 teammate, your partner, your trusted ally. He(/she) is someone to share every secret with, your best buddy, your comforter, your rock. They are the one you want to share every thing with...your greatest achievements, your deepest sorrows. Marriage has been the best thing I've ever done!
2006-09-27 08:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Legs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 20 years. I believe marriage is a great thing. We were friends for nearly 4 years before we ever even dated. I dated his best friend, I introduced him to my best friend and after we all broke up - he and I remained good friends and never realized we were "dating" Our children think it's hysterical that we don't know when we began dating.
We have our ups and downs, but who doesn't in ANY relationship - be it work, school, marriage. The key is remembering why you married him/her. I wouldn't want to be married to anyone else.
2006-09-27 07:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Been there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happily married. I would not generalize and say that marriage is great. It depends on the people involved. I love my husband and I love being a wife and mother. Having someone in your corner, that loves you as you are and accepts you, having someone to lean on and build a life with and grow old together...those things make MY marriage great. But I have friends whose marriages are terrible.
2006-09-27 08:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyedSista 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage for love would be great. Marriage for any other reason, here's your answer.
Marriage - "when two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions. They are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part." --George Bernard Shaw
2006-09-27 07:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear,
Optimists say always look at the good side of marriage.
The good side is that you are assured to have someone on whom you can take out your anger and stress.
The bad side is when you concede them from your partner.
2006-09-27 08:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage will be the hardest job that you have.
it's not all about love; compromise, joint decision on religion, politics, raising children, fiances, meal planning, new job, old job, buying or renting, living or not living near family, best schools, etc, etc, etc, etc!
It's a great institution to become involved in!
2006-09-27 07:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a committed institution?......no thanks
2006-09-27 07:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋