2006-09-27 07:49:39 · 27 answers · asked by Mary Smith 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand you completely and am in the same situation as you. Forget all those people that say things about it. There are always so many situations that are the reason the marriage is not monogamous. I can not say no, no matter what he does or says I can't. It's called love. You can't help who you love.
I have known this guy for 7 years, he was my first boyfriend and I was with him for almost 2 years. We broke up because it ended up being long distance because he went away to college. We finally got in touch when he moved back, at that time I had a boyfriend. I ended up staying with that guy for 4 years(what a waste). After we broke up, the very next day my ex contacted me, who was now married. We have been "together" for a year now. She knows about me, and knows he loves me, and him and I have never stopped loving each other. She continues to fight for him. They have a lot of finances together and he owns his own business so he can't just walk away or he would be in some financial trouble. She knows this and keeps this above his head. Eventually when he gets everything paid off, him and I will be together....in the mean time, I know what I am doing is wrong, but I have been doing this for a year now, and I am by no means giving up.
2006-09-27 07:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You won't know if he's telling the truth because you are only getting his side. I'm sure that his wife would be singing a different tune. One thing is true, that he is a liar, and admits to only so much of it. You don't want to waste your time with a dishonest person, how will you ever know if he is telling the truth? Also, past behavior is a good predictor of the future. He lies and cheats, and he will lie and cheat on you, too. Sure its hard to walk away, but think of this; think of the great guy you COULD meet if you were single that would be great for you without doubts.
2016-03-18 02:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me twice. And from time to time I ask myself, "what did I do to deserve this." You see, in the end your actions will hurt this woman who has done no wrong to you. I know it takes two to tango, but you asked how to control your feelings. Have you ever been cheated on? Imagine the pain a wife feels when she finds out her husbands been unfaithful. What if they have children? You're going to ruin their lives too.
Listen, without calling you any rude names, what you are is a Scarlet Woman. A woman of easy virtue. By definition adultery is voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse.
Adulterate is another word I think you need to be familiar with. It means to make impure or inferior by adding improper ingredients. The improper ingredient here is you.
Emotions are crazy things that I know are hard to control. You say you love this man. That's fine. But why don't you try to love yourself a little right now. If you value yourself at all then stop behaving like a woman who doesn't deserve her own man. Please, from one woman to another. Don't do this anymore.
2006-09-27 08:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some professional help. I don't say this disparagingly. Many women are in your boat. First of all, being involved with someone who will 'never' be available to you is a safety feature for women. They will never have to make a commitment to this person, even though you may be pining for the day he leaves his wife for you. Don't fall for that. You need to move on into a healthy relationship and draw better boundaries around yourself.
2006-09-27 07:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like what you're doing you are going to keep on doing it. Keep it real and stop posting this mess on yahoo when you know you won't change a thing in you life based on these answers.
He is not going to stop until he finds another ho he don't have to pay.
2006-09-27 08:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by datingyoungincali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you were married and someone was sleeping with your husband? Stop putting yourself in that situation, you wouldn't want his marriage to end because of you. So why even set yourself up for the heartache?
Either you can be happy with this fling the way it is, or leave him alone.
2006-09-27 08:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by RDark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I got over a woman I loved (thankfully she wasn't married) was this: When I thought about her I forced myself to think of bad times only, not good ones. After about a month I never wanted to see her again, romantically anyway.
2006-09-27 07:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of state. Getting over someone you love is not easy. Love isn't always right. Distance and time are the healers.
You deserve to be with someone who is free to be with you, not someone who comes to you when it's convenient for him. He'll find someone else to cheat on his wife with when you move on. And if he wants to be with you, he'll leave her, but, to be sure, three people in the marriage bed is bound to leave at least one person unhappy. Don't let it be you.
Easier said than done, I know. You deserve Bliss!
2006-09-27 07:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no problem ruining someone elses marriage then go for it. If you have any morals however, tell him to continue your relationship he needs to break off the ones he's already committed to. Even though you may love him, he seems like he's just using you.
2006-09-27 07:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and get your own man, I wish women these days would have some morals about themselves. I'm not even married but your a hoe! That is so selfish. Does he have kids, think how his wife would feel. Think of someone other then you. He will never want to be with you even if they do split! No have no morals and low self esteem, who wants to be with a person like that?
2006-09-27 07:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋