i knew the answer was obvious...go get FREAKIN tested girl! i did...yesterday..and the night before i got a at home test. planned parenthood test confirmed that im 8 weeks pregnant.
im going in for abortion. Im scared but confident its the right thing to do. i cannot take care of the little baby right now. and if i had to give birth, i wouldnt be willing to give it up for adoption after wards. so YEH here we go...any advice on how to keep myself calm during and after this?! has anyone had one before!?
2006-09-27 07:39:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do what is best for you. It is not fair that women who wait until they are 50 to try to conceive want young women to fork over their offspring. If your heart isn't in it, don't convince yourself that adoption is the better option.
Take a couple of days and do some deep thinking. If abortion still feels like the right choice for you, don't feel guilty.
2006-09-27 08:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im so sorry, im not againist abortion, I would probley do the same thing right now, but giving up something you were meant for, its hard. Try to think of how your first planned child will be, Take anti depressants, DO everything the doctor asks, act like its nothing... Most women who undergo surgical abortions done in appropriate medical facilities recover without any physical complications.A hot bath or use of a heating pad or hot water bottle on the abdomen may help relieve discomfort. Strenuous activity should be avoided for a few days following an abortion. Tampons may be used after 3 days. Sexual intercourse should be avoided for 2 to 3 weeks. A normal menstrual period should occur 4 to 6 weeks after the operation.
You can choose to have a shot to numb the area or pills, personally I would take the pills, but the shot leaves you pain-free. Should have got tested earlier because right at the moment you get pregant til 7 weeks along you can just take medications for the abortion! Good Luck and I hope everything turns out okay. Remember this is your decison so your the only one who knows if its right or wrong!! Women are free to do what they wish with there own bodies!!
2006-09-27 07:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by ♥RN♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in abortion unless it is for a medical reason. But I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide. If you have to do the abortion, take a friend or loved one with you so they will be there for you afterwards.
Just be sure to think about what you are doing. Killing an innocent baby that didn't ask to be conceived. There are ways to prevent getting pregnant and you should be more careful.
I'm sure there are plenty of people that can't have children that would love to adopt your baby. If you want to put it up for adoption, you don't even have to see it after you give birth if that makes it any easier to give it up. Just give it a little more thought than finding out you are pregnant and making the decision to have an abortion all in the same day.
2006-09-27 07:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by journey rocks 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I can't imagine all that is going through your mind right now.
I urge you to reconsider an abortion. Are you willing to take a life to make your own easier? There are ways to get aid so that you can raise this child. Even if you choose not to keep the child, there are so many couples who are unable to have children. This innocent baby could have a chance at a great life.
I understand that in the end, it's your choice. Please give it some thought before you end your pregnancy.
2006-09-27 07:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by agentm006 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I work at an abortion clinc so i no how patients feel..i have also been in the same situation and i was scared just like you. All i can say is don't be nervous, if your going to a place just like were i work the Doctors are GREAT they talk to u the whole time and so do the nurses. there is also a number for after abortion care if you would like it
2006-09-27 08:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky Italian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have the baby and give him/her up for adoption, If you abort the baby that would make you a murderer and i dont think your conscience will leave you alone, you will live with the guilt for the rest of your life. Even if you give it up for adoption i think you will still feel guilty but at least you will know that you didnt kill your own child, and he/she has a better life that the one you could've given him/her so all i can tell you is good luck i cant tell you may god be with you because if you abort god definetily wont be with you so good luck!
2006-09-27 07:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by its_me 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an abortion, but I would get counseling before I made a decision. You do what you can live with but seek help from someone who can sit down and discuss the outcome of all choices.
2006-09-27 07:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Midnight Blue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all don't do it! you will regret it this is going to haunt you for life. I had one and my life is a living hell I'm not happy with myself, I have a low self esteem, I was young and stupid this is something that is going to be with you for life! one day when you die and go to heaven! guess who's going to be waiting for you there your baby that you killed! he or she is going to tell you why did you kill me mom? is that what you want to hear? I did this 10 yrs ago and still till this day I cry about it! If I had a chance to take it back I would do it in a heart beat! don't do it please go on the Internet and see pictures of how they look after the abortion
May the lord be with you!
2006-09-27 08:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by PRI 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate it when females use abortion as a form of birth control.
Sorry, just thinking out loud. I have no advice for you.
2006-09-27 07:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by Melia 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a brave choice to have an abortion. You have figured out that you are not ready to be a parent right now. Have a friend or family member go with you. Take it easy afterward and try to relax.
2006-09-27 07:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by smurf 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋