How do I go out to public places with my bottle fed 9 month old baby and not get accosted by the Breast SS and Titty terrorists? Real responses please. I'm being for real, this is bothering me, and I am trying to be nice to these hoes like Jesus said to do, but it's so hard.
2006-09-27 07:34:41 · 24 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You kill me! I did both breast and bottle fed my kids. Tell them that they made their choice, you made yours. Don't like it? Shove it? Do you question what their kids are wearing, what kind of diaper they use, how they cut it's hair? NO! So tell them to butt out. Or comment on how that particular outfit on their kid just looks awful and you would never put your child through the embarrasment of it. Just not good, oh no, just not good! That outta stop 'em dead! Do not feel obligated to explain yourself! Your child, your choice! If you want to dye that kid's hair blue not one person can do a d*mn thing about it! Stand Strong!!!
2006-09-27 07:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, this isn't really an answer, but I have to say I've been hassled by breastfeeding nazi's, too. They have no idea what my circumstances are, they just judge.
I had a woman tell me how much I was hurting my son by not breastfeeding. For some reason, I felt obligated to explain that he was a preemie, I had an emergency C-Section, didn't produce nearly enough milk, am on tons of necessary medication and so on. I was told it was NO excuse and I should have been willing to take classes to teach a premature baby to take my breast, see what options there are for getting off whatever medication I was taking, and so on.
It's really no one's business, I've decided. I don't need anyone making me feel any more guilty than I already do (not that I need to). As long as the baby is healthy and is growing, who cares?
2006-09-27 16:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by edkolover 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Emily O -she is just trying to be inflammatory. Jellybean I don't know where you are going but most places I go I do not hear anyone saying anything to people about how they choose to feed their babies. Now, I know that you browse breastfeeding websites and complain about what they say about there so I'm guessing that you also sit in at LLL meeting just so you can whip out a bottle and invite any negative comments that you can get -then come here and complain that everyone makes comments everywhere you go.
And hoes? What do you base that insult on? At least Breast Nazi and Titty Terrorist are relevant.
So please, complain all you want but please make it believable.
2006-09-27 15:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you really think people care that you're bottle feeding that baby, huh? The truth is, we don't. But if you think you're being harassed by a breastfeeding mother staring at your child, say
"Can I help you?"
I look at adorable babies all the time in public and I don't care how they're getting their nourishment. Like I said before, maybe they're just admiring your baby and you're taking it wrong because you've got some latent insecurity about your bottlefeeding in the first place.
The fact that you attack breastfeeding women in general and call them 'hoes' pretty much proves this.
2006-09-27 14:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is hard when you feel accosted to be kind. Keep trying. You can simply say. Yes, I understand your point but this is my decision and change the topic. Something like, Did you see that 4 year old still in diapers? Might take the gossip off of you.(just kidding)
You don't need to offer any excuses for your decision-after all you are the childs mom it is yours to make.
From a breastfeeding mommy/advocate who certainly respects your decision.
2006-09-27 15:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by interested 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have never seen anyone accosted for giving a bottle to their child. I have, however, been accosted for breastfeeding my child in a mom's resting place at the mall.
Now, I would tell them to mind their own beeswax. If they don't report them to security.
It's a personal choice and no one has the right to pester anyone else about their decision.
2006-09-27 14:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, just remember if they are judging you for bottle feeding then you are better than them. Some women can't breastfeed however much they want. Every mother wants to do the best for their child and you have decided that bottle is best for your baby. You can sort of avoid it by feeding your baby before you go out or lie and say you express because he has such a healthy apitite. Another idea is to give him water or juice while out. Hope this helps your not the only one in the bottle boat!
2006-09-27 14:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by pink cupcake 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all its your baby and you are doing what you believe to be the best for the child so ignore the opinion of anyone else. i breast feed all of my children for the first 4 months of there life and i have 3 very healthy happy children the eldest being 8 next week. if people don't like watching you bottle feed your baby then they don't have to watch how do they not know it is breast milk inside the the bottle?.... they would say the same if people didn't like watching them get there boobs out in public!
2006-09-27 16:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I formula fed my daughter. I never got harrassed by anyone. I even know breast feeding mothers that will only bottle feed in public, with breast milk though. People just need to learn to respect your feeding decision for your child. You are the parent, not them.
2006-09-27 14:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by jevic 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I don't know where you live, but I've never been accosted by anyone, or known anyone approached by the Breast Feeding folks. It's a personal choice. I would simply tell the person to mind their own business or you will report them to the authorities.
2006-09-27 14:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by janice 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋