I think that the teenager who is going to school every day and isn/t getting into trouble with drugs/alcohol/police etc. should be allowed in the evenings to watch tv in the family room . My husband thinks that because he pays the bills and it is HIS tv that he has more rights. Therefore he wants me to tell my son that even if my son is watching something, he has to leave and go do something else if my husband wants to come down stairs and watch the big tv. We have a tv upstairs as well and I think that my husband could be upstairs with me and our daughter and let the teenager who will be gone in a couple of years have the downstairs. Not all the time but most of the time. This is my second marriage. Can someone please give me some advice in this situation.
Please Help!
2006-09-27 07:30:27 · 13 answers · asked by confused 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Husband on power trip indeed! but the whole family may want to talk: why would 1 person watch something and the other something else. I'm old fashion and we all watch 1 thing, together!!! have you tried?
2006-09-30 11:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were a mother before you were this guy's wife. Your duty is to your children. Your husband is acting like the oldest kid. he married you, knowing you were a mother. He isn't being fair making you choose between your son and him. (Lots of 2nd marriages break up over this.) There has to be a compromise here to make the family happy. How about this: if your husband wants to watch a show, he gets to watch it if nobody else is watching TV. But if he comes in and your son is in the middle of a show, the boy gets to finish the show and then let your husband take over the TV after that. Is your husband the only bread-winner in the family? Do you work outside the home? If you do, buy the boy a TV for his room and let him watch it so long as his homework is finished first. If your husband is the only one making money....then he has a point. I still think he is being selfish to make your son leave the room when he comes in. Some father he's trying to be!
2006-09-27 16:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would be even harder in our house because we have only one t.v. The parents bump the kids when things are planned in advance, but we certainly don't bump someone in the middle of something they're watching - that seems rude.
However, none of us watch much t.v. and so we don't tend to interfere with each other's choices.
You portray your husband as not being part of the family group. Is this true?
Also, if your son will be gone soon, why would you want him away from you in a different room?
2006-09-27 15:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband and son want to watch the same thing your son should be allowed to watch with the family. If your son wants to watch something different than your husband should rule. Your son is trying to be the man of the house and move your husband out of that position. Let you son be the child till he has to be the man
2006-09-27 14:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your husband watching that your 16 your old son can't see? Do you really want that kind of content in your home? The TV in any home should be a family commodity. And of course your hardworking husband should have priority but he shouldn't have anything on while your children are awake that your son can't watch with him.
Another thing that can solve your issues is a dvr or tivo program so that if your son is viewing something he can record it and give way to his father.
It is your husbands TV and he didn't buy it so that your son could have something to watch, he bought it for himself. But he does need to let your son watch television with him.
Your son won't die. Television is a waste of time and isn't necessary to his existence. But I applaud you on raising a boy who is generally good at managing his life despite family strife. God bless you.
-Victoria
2006-09-27 15:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is ridiculous. You freaking negotiate!
Your son or your husband tell each other ahead of time that there's something on later that they want to watch. In channel-flicking cases, I think first-come-first-serve applies, but whoever does should be respectful if the other is around. When me and my brother were argumentative as young teens we always had to disregard what we wanted to watch, and find something we could both enjoy!
Good luck!
2006-09-27 15:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by RSJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We had only one TV when I was growing up and we used the first come first serve rule. I don't think it's fair that your husband can claim the big TV and change the chanel when someone is already watching it.
2006-09-27 14:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your kid is a good kid then he needs to be rewarded - your husband might be paying bills but he needs to be a parent and understand that having a familly is not about HIM any longer. I would have them each choose a day or a show they want to watch and rotate the viewing priviledges Good luck..........
2006-09-27 14:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by asyannis 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I vote for the Son. The Dad sounds like a brat! lol. Let them both have time...Like son gets an hour..dad gets an hour and so on
2006-09-27 14:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by †ᴰᴲᵛᴵᴸ† 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is on a power trip. My stepdad is just the same. Tell your husband to get over it.
2006-09-27 14:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Christina W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋