Is it cheating to flirt online?

Question

When you are in a relationship, should you be flirting with someone else that you know on myspace???
Remember, you are not planning to do anything.....it's just flirting.

Answer 1

YES!! I recently found out that my boyfriend of 5 years, has been talking to girls online while I am at work!! You have no idea how devestated I was and still am. If everyone out there reading this would just think for a minute how you would feel. I can't get it out of my head. Of course it depends on how much you love your partner, I happen to love mine very much!!

Answer 2

This is a debate that we have often in my home. If you are in a committed relationship, then flirting on the computer steps very close to cheating. You have to get to the nitty gritty of what cheating entails in order to understand. Cheating isn't just sneaking out with someone else or having sex with someone else. Yes, that is cheating, but cheating is anything that you do that takes away emotionally from your partner. Does having sex with someone else take away from your partner. In a sense, no. If your partner doesn't know or if you never act differently towards your partner, then you haven't taken away from your relationship emotionally. I don't advocate sex with others and not telling. It always causes a problem whether they find out or not, you do change in ways towards your partner and you have done them a terrible unjustice. The catch is that unless you are heartless and callous, this will take away from your relationship. You tend to start treating your partner differently, you take time away from your relationship to be with others. So, in relation to cheating on the internet by flirting while chatting, then you are taking time away from the relationship in order to do this. Maybe you are telling this person on line things that you should be saying to your partner, or since you have discussed certain things online with the "other person" you don't discuss these things with your partner. Perhaps, it is a simple as you have already filled hours talking with someone else, so you just don't talk to your partner. Also, you delve into the world of fantasy. Maybe this online character you are playing and the other person are exciting and you start comparing your home life and it just doesn't seem as exciting. You start thinking the grass is greener in other areas. Yes, computer flirting is cheating to a certain extent. However, if your partner knows that you are doing it and can monitor the situation, if it is something the two of you can be open and honest about, then you have opened up more communication with each other and the flirting becomes harmless. Here is my motto, if I can't go home and discuss what I've done today over dinner with my husband, then I probably shouldn't be doing it. If you are hiding your flirtatious ways on myspace, then you already know you are cheating.

Answer 3

I say absolutly it is cheating. Talking to another besides your partner about your intimate matters, and you ask if its cheating? Why not just take the extra time to flatter your partner with all that flirting? I would rather spend all that effort on my husband instead of trying to make myself look so great to a stranger, online on top of that, because I know that all the effoort I put into my husband will result in something and online flirting is nothing but a waste of time, plus if your b/f found out, I KNOW he would be upset, so therefore, do unto others as you have done to you, and what goes around, comes around..

Answer 4

You are cheating you are cheating in your heart against your partner. If you were loyal to your partner you need not go anywhere else even flirting on the internet. You also bring feelings of arousal by your behaviour on the other person that should be your partner.
You want to burn the candle at both ends but sorry that expression always means you are doing wrong.
If you are thinking what you are doing is okay then do your internet flirting it in front of your partner after all it doesn't mean anything, right?

Answer 5

Well, What if your partner sees or read the messages back a fourth? Do you think it would bother him, or would he just dismiss it as just flirting?

I think in this situation it’s best to put your self in the others shoes. If you wouldn’t mind him doing that to another woman then maybe it’s okay. MAYBE…

But then does the other man you are talking with know your situation? Are you giving him the wrong ideal, or does he know that you are in a relationship that you will not call off for him?

In my mind, I think there is nothing wrong with harmless flirting. It’s natural; I encourage my man to be friendly to other women when we go out. But that’s only because I know what his intensions are…

If you hiding from your man, or being sneaky… or you feel guilty then something is not right. And you should revaluate your situation.

I hope you come to a conclusion and it’s the best one for you. Lots of luck girlfriend.

Answer 6

flirting or just being friendly?

some people think if you flirt or think of someone sort of romantically other than your significant other that you have already cheated in your mind. I dont know about that, I guess it depends on a person's own viewpoint. If the way you are flirting with that other person would hurt your partner's feelings then maybe it could be considered cheating.

Answer 7

If your in a relationship with someone, how fair is it to that person that your flirting with someone else on-line? Physically your not cheating on them, but I feel by flirting your cheating on them with your thoughts.

Think about it how you would feel if your partner was flirting with someone else either face to face or on-line.

Just use some common sense.

Answer 8

You probably should ask your partner because what that person feels is most important. Some people take Myspace seriously and break up over things like this.

Answer 9

Well ya it is.Sure you may mean nothing by it, and flirting on the computer isn't as meaning full as face to face but u might lead the person on.So it is best not u unless the person you are flirting with is one of those people who doesn't take it serious or your just only goof friends.Otherwise it isn't to good to do.

Answer 10

If you're into virtual flirting, it should be fairly harmless assuming it's not leading up to some actual rendezvous. But it also suggests you're wanting some kind of attention that perhaps your real-life partner isn't giving you, or you feel the need to validate your attractiveness?

Anyway, have fun but go easy.