I'm 32 weeks pregnant and feel sorry for my husband. I'm still working full time 9 hours a day and by the time I get home all I want to do is go to sleep. I'm very big and when we do have sex my stomach is there and in the way. I don't feel like having sex anymore or doing anything remotly related to it. What did you all do when you felt like this.
2006-09-27 07:17:58 · 23 answers · asked by marie_amanda2003 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wait until after you have the child! I have a six month old and I still dont have my sex drive back. I feel "blah" Some people recommend to watch x rated films to try to give you a boost. I am not into those though. Some say to have a romantic night but my husband isnt into that. Hopefully it will shake off towards the end.
I did not want sex towards the last of my pregnancy. My husband hung in there though.. and is still hanging. I hate that I cant be there for him but he is so great! I hardly hear him complain. Try offering him oral sex at least to satisfy him at times.
2006-09-27 07:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, our sexual relationship with our marital partner is something that requires a real conscious effort after so many years!! I found that having sex somewhere OTHER than the bed (even if we just moved to the floor) really helped to peak my interest again. You have to plan sex: buy something sexy to wear, light some scented candles. They say that even at the very beginning of our relationships (when sex seems so spontaneous) we still plan for it. For example, didn't you ever shave your legs or wear sexy underwear or change the bedsheets because you knew you'd probably be having sex that evening?
I can recommend two things: one is a furry, wedge shaped..well..WEDGE (lol) called The Liberator which basically you can lie on in a variety of positions which may remedy the trouble you're having with positioning. The other is a product called HoneyDust. It's made by Kamasutra and it comes in a variety of scents and flavours. It's basically a fine powder that tastes delicious that you dust on your partner with a soft feather applicator (included) and then lick it off of each other!! In Canada you can get both items at Aren't We Naughty...but I'm sure they're available at just about every adult store.
Best of luck!!
2006-09-27 07:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not help how you feel, your body is not your own at this point. I am 30 weeks right now and I have the opposite problem, ..My husband wants nothing to do with it and I do! Most generally people loose there drive and its perfectly normal. You could try planning time "together" on the weekend when you do not have to work. Take a bath, have him give you a massage..please each other in other non intercourse ways then maybe it will progress into more. Remember, you two are have and are creating a new life together, use that knowledge to motivate you physically. :)
2006-09-27 07:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jakes Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing that you are doing now, slept all I can cause once you have the baby, all the sleeping is more than likely out the window. Seriously though, the more you move around, the more active you will start to become and there is ways to have sex with a belly (if you are ever up to it), but there should not be any pressure on having it and you husband should accept that.
2006-09-27 07:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 32 weeks pregnant and working 9 hours a day I feel sorry for you!!! You are having a baby! And you are already being "super Mom". Sometimes men need to learn to be a little creative and women need to allow them to be. ie allow him to masterbate. Sometimes it is a really turn on for them if you watch.. that is.. if you can keep your poor eyes open.
You need to take care of you and your babe!! He can wait. In a couple months you are going to feel so much better!
2006-09-27 07:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal feeling , what you feel and your husband must be more human to know that you are tired , and he have to wait 3 months from now without sex ( 2 until delivery & 1 till you get rest) , Also , he must know that violent sex or even less may harm you or your baby as uterine contraction may start due to orgasm and lastly , semen acts as a dilator to uterine orifice which may introduce infection to the baby .
Please, ket your hasbund read those words from a modest Egyptian,Muslim Doctor. I hope you got a healthy big butifull baby .
2006-09-27 07:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by bobola 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try another position like doggy style or something.or sit on the couch and sloutch and him on his knees standing erect and try it that way but your bottom must be close to edge of couch. Sex loss though I dunno ask tha doc. I wouldnt work that many hours if your that large but you need rest than to work. Work like six hours a day or 5. I want to help but feel bad but maybe it not good to have sex pregnant that late cause youd poke the baby and induce labor
2006-09-27 07:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by swept away in hopes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to sleep all the time. When you are pregnant your just tired all the time. Explain to him and maybe he'll understand. You might need a new position. Its such a long wait after the baby comes. Do u think he can wait. Talk to him.
2006-09-27 07:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by someones sister 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You both have to see passed that....it's normal for you to feel the way you do. ...tired and all. Try the spoon position. (not sure if that's what it's called....but it's the one where he enters from behind and can caress you and your belly) Besides.....he can also masturbate, if he feels the need, but you don't....all for the sake of the baby, who will have happy parents and have sex again after his birth. Tell him that it's OK, if he pleasures himself in the time-being....
2006-09-27 07:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about the way you feel.... the decline in the drive is due to hormones. Try new positions that will accommodate your growing midsection.... It can be fun... Hang in there you are almost there. Keep in mind there are benefits to having sex in the later weeks of pregnancy... it can lead to contraction, water breakage, easier births and just plain fun...
2006-09-27 07:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋