How should I handle it I want her to be apart of this with me
2006-09-27 06:48:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
first, realize that her reaction is completely normal. she has had a very sad loss and it will take time and love and support for her to get through it. be patient with her. tell her that you can understand her feelings and you want to support her and love her.
You really can't ask her for anything just yet, you need to be giving to her. she will get better in her own time, and her family's love will help her do it.
i feel sure she will love and be happy for your baby when the time comes.
*hugs*
2006-09-27 06:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by georgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the best thing is to be honest with her. Tell her that you're not sure how to handle it best. That you want it to be a happy time for her too and you want her to be involved. Ask her what she's comfortable with. Be gentle and don't get impatient if she doesn't warm up to the baby right away. I had two miscarriages and was angry at every teenage pregnancy I saw, abortion, etc., until I had my own baby. So it might take her awhile. Just realize her anger isn't about you and your baby, she's focusing on her loss and the unfairness. Anything she directs toward you, she really doesn't mean.
2006-09-27 13:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, her grief has to come before your happiness. She might not be able to be involved at any point, and may not be able to warm up to your child oncee it's born. Don't take it personally, and only offer information when she asks for it. She's your sister, so hopefully, you can get to a point where you can talk about all this. I'm sure she not only feels grief but also guilt that she can't be more supportive of you. Find other girlfriends to be surrogate sisters to you in the meantime. This is a really bad situation. I'm sorry you and she have to go through this.
2006-09-27 14:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be hard for her. Give her space, you can't make her be a part of this. But also let her know that she can be a part of this if she wants to. She's still grieving the loss of her child and your pregnancy just reminds her of her loss. Try to be supportive, but don't pretend like you understand completely (unless you have lost a child).
2006-09-27 13:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give her time, i bet when you start getting further in the pregnancy she will come around. she is still grieving and your baby reminds her of what she lost. I have never lost a child but i cant imagine the pain she is feeling. Just try not to make it a huge deal around her and let her come around when she is up to it.
2006-09-27 13:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try not to brag or talk about it a whole lot with her. Let her bring up the baby subject. I feel so bad for her.....There's nothing you can really do besides be there for her and let her know that she will be blessed with a healthy baby next time.
2006-09-27 13:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by CMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her time she is not mad at you she is mad that its happening to you and not her. She obviously has gone through the unthinkable. I'm sorry you have to go through this with mixed emotion, happy about your pregnancy sad because you and your sister are fighting. Try to sit with her just you and her and talk about it like sisters are supposed to do. Sorry and good luck.
2006-09-27 14:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by dmgoldsbo7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault about her baby but shes still hurting.Go to lunch togather and tell her you want her to be apart of this.If you religion allows it ask her to be godmother let her have a special part with your baby.i did this for my aunt whos only child died and she was really greatful her and my daughter are the best togather.and i have a willing babysitter
2006-09-27 13:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by live,laugh,love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to give her time losing a child is very hard to deal with..
I lost two in a row..Give her time, Be there for her to comfort her and try not to mention your pregnancy to her right now...
2006-09-27 13:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will be difficult for her, so talk to her calmly
2006-09-27 13:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by cuteangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋