He want mind, thinks he can do what he wants, and he is talking back to the teacher. He use to be my best child. I did not have any problems
2006-09-27 06:43:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
he's a teenager...it's only going to get worse before it gets better
2006-09-27 06:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Flower 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take resource in what he finds valuable. Like if he has a busy social life, take that away until he realizes how he's been acting. Or if he likes the cell phone, computer, video games, internet, etc., limit those activities or take them away and make him earn them back. I have a 12 year old, and when he acts up, I take away his social life for a few days or a week and he turns into an angel. If he keeps acting up, he loses more priveleges or adds to the length of time on the first one. You have to be real consistent and don't give in. My son has learned (although he has setbacks of course), that if he wants privileges, he has to act respectable and responsible and loses those privileges if he doesn't. We have pretty strict rules, and I expect my kids to follow the rules. When they mess up, we don't yell and scream, I just explain to him the consequences and we talk about it and I make sure he understands why he's being disciplined. I do have very respectable and responsible boys because I have taught them to be.
2006-09-27 13:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 13 not 30. He is a child and not an adult. You need to remind them of that. You need to combine the loving front of a parent and the proper discipline for a teenager. Take what is most precious from him. You know what will make him know you're serious. Teach him a lesson. He'll thank you when he is 30 and you've prevented him from mouthing off at a police officer or not practicing self-control at his job.
2006-09-27 18:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 13 yr old is actually much more respectful than my 12 yr old, but we have had a few issues like yours. I realize it's a part of growing up and rebelling is normal, but I also feel that they need to learn to be respectful of others regardless of their age. I've only had to do it once and it was my 12 yr old daughter that got in trouble but she was being such a brat that I cleaned out her room....completely....all she had left was her bed and clothes. She had to earn back her things one at a time by being respectful and responsible. Since then we've had a couple normal arguments but she's learning to be a lot more respectful of others.
Guess it's all a learning process and we all learn (kids and adults), but you do the best you can and love them regardless. Good luck!
2006-09-27 14:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he acts three, treat him that way. I am not saying beat your kids but if more parents would spank them once in a while for a reality check the world would not be so screwed up. I have used various forms of discipline on my girls, mostly time outs and removing privileges. But occasionally I have to tap the back side and they normally fly straight after that. Remember you are the parent. Don't try to buddy up to him, He needs parents right now not buddies.
2006-09-27 13:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by heartache 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't treat him like he's three. He's a teenager and he's going to think he can do what he wants etc. It sounds to me like he's acting like a 13 year old. Just set reasonable rules and if he breaks them he'll just have to face the consequences.
2006-09-27 15:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 13 year old that acts like he's 3...i'll trade you a 21 yo and a 24 yo that act like they 2 and 4, btw, mine are girls....
best way i have found how to make them act their age, is to treat them like the age that they are acting. about a week of that he should be back to 13...unfortunately, mine will never act their age as long as their mother(we divorced) gets a kick out of the "baby talk" and whining.
2006-09-27 14:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by daddysboicub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a boy - and hes a teenager - you have no hope of making him act like a normal human being until hes about 30, if you are lucky.
2006-09-28 12:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by krisr22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a phase hes trying to prove that hes independent and can do things that you wouldnt like. hes trying to find his place and see how much he can get away with when your not there to correct him and make him stay in line. its just a phase all kids go thru it around 13 and 14
2006-09-27 14:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by laxchik1117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im ready to b 14 soon. At this age we think basicly we can do wat we want and dont care if we get in trouble 4 it or not. We all get agitated w/ our parents too/ Hug us, we hate it, but it makes us feel better later and we know even though ur mad u still luv us.
2006-09-27 20:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by tdredhead01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him TONS more disipline! Threaten him with boot camp or something. Take away his most important things. Like ground him from his T.V. Or take away his playstation. And dont give them back until he snaps out of it.
2006-09-27 14:36:37 · answer #11 · answered by Christina W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋