Most times when im around people i dont know well my mind just goes blank and i cannot think of anything to say, it is really annoying. So i was just wondering if anyone had any tips on this subject?
2006-09-27 06:18:20 · 23 answers · asked by Euan S 3 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Just be yourself Hun, people will either accept you for who you are or they can walk.
We all suffer with shy moments no-matter how confident we are at times.
The best people are those that notice this in some of us and will make the effort to make you feel at ease or bring on conversation that includes you in some way.
As for people you don't know, so long as you have a friendly smile, and appear approachable they will always try to communicate- If you make people feel at ease and accepted then they will be the same with you. :o)
2006-09-28 03:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by allix w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to people and take mental notes...what are the things that cross most people's minds 90% of the time? How do you feel about the topics? Then, when the time is right(this is the hard part!) venture an opinion and stick around to be grilled on your answer! It's called 'social intercourse' and it's the only way to become a decent conversationalist!
2006-09-27 13:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its about confidence, what interests you no matter how mundane or boring you think what your interested in is, there is a market of listeners out there. Maybe you hang with those of different perspectives than yourself and thus feel you haven't got the confidence to speak. I am A nurse and when I started I was similar until I knew a little, I still know a little but talk alot - as im older and dont really care if im talking drivel now ( joke ).
2006-09-27 13:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, RELAX! I know this sounds very cliche, but be yourself. Talk when you have something to say instead of searching for something just to be in the conversation. If you're trying to force your way in it's usually obvious and not a very appealing trait. It makes you look desperate. Listen to what other people are saying and gather your thoughts about it before you open your mouth. If you still have nothing to say on the subject just keep it simple with a nod or an 'Okay.'
2006-09-27 13:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy24/7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sepend too much time on the internet answering questions like these...and start meeting real people.
My mate was in a long relationship (8 years) and when they broke up he went out and tried to get laid as much as possible. Although his chatting up skills were terrible, he kept going for it, until eventually he was regected so many times that he knew what not to say and how NOT to act. Now he's got women all over him...HATE HIM!!!
But that's it. You have to learn by doing it, not by curling up and feeling sorry for yourself.
2006-09-27 13:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by axel_jose187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise reading the paper or watching the news as a good starting point or even taking up a hobby as a good way to start conversations with people. Just try talking even if you think what your saying is stupid someone else may find it interesting. Good luck.
2006-09-27 13:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read where people who want to improve this, practice with SecondLife, www.secondlife.com.
It's a free 3D game/world that allows you to interact with people. You can control the way you look in the "game", what you wear...etc. It's called a game, but very much more than that...it is or can be a real second life.
Check it out.
2006-09-27 13:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur out with pple you dont know just go up to a random person and start alking to them like you know them. tell them who u r ask them who they r ask questions. the good thing is u will probally never see them again so u dont have to worry about anything they cant make a judgement if u will never see them again. plus were something that makes u feel good and show a smile that always helps ack like u want to be there even if u wish u weren't its inviting
2006-09-27 15:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nicoble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out more about some of the more popular subjects that people talk about so that when you go out you will have some knowledge on the topics and feel like you have something to share
2006-09-27 13:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as the cave man had no choice for help and relationship he had to exercise his social skills, and stepped up to the other cave man and said, "HELLO!"
It naturally takes its course from there.
you have to step up and open your mouth, ask questions, or open doors to discussion, and it will happen. Always use your P's and Q's. (please and thank you's).
Oh, and stop chatting on the computer, and get out and TALK to REAL people face to face. It will open a whole new world to you.
2006-09-27 13:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cabana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋