does it mean that your husband doesn't trust you, or the marriage? or are you showing "faith" by signing one?
(my bf is a lawyer and is constantly saying EVERONE should have a prenup, regardless of how much they make right now). what do u think?
2006-09-27 05:48:27 · 9 answers · asked by sasmallworld 6 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I agree that every couple who gets married or lives together
should have a prenuptial agreement....especially in the case
of large discrepancies.
Divorce law is screwed up as it is now, when there is
joint division of assets and so forth, when one spouse
has done substantially more than the other spouse in
terms of contributing to the total wealth. An extreme
example would be a superwealthy person marrying someone
who is below the poverty level, especially if the superwealthy
person's talent/work is the reason that person is superwealthy.
There is no way that people should profit off divorce. If Bill
Gates was still single, and he marrried someone who was the
poorest woman in the world, and they got divorced, does that
mean the woman should get 50% of Gates' fortune, just
because she was married to him. I say no...she should be
entitled to something, like support from Gates until she
finds her own way to support herself, but 50% is ridiculous.
It works the other way too in terms of the sexes. Substitute
the world's wealthiest woman for Gates, and the world's
poorest man for the world's poorest woman. There is no
way in my opinion, that the world's poorest man should
be entitled to 50% of the world's wealthiest woman's
fortune, should they divorce. He should be entitled to
support until he finds a way to support himself, but that's
it. The support should be cut off once the less wealthy
spouse can support him or herself.
A prenup is a good way to find out if a person is truly
marrying you for you, and not for financial reasons. If you
never divorce, then you never have to worry. A prenup has
nothing to do about trust...it's protection for the person who
has more to lose in terms of assets if the marriage doesn't
work out.
Any assets acquired jointly during the marriage should
be considered for division after the marriage dissolves.
Inheritances and other forms of extraordinary wealth should
be excludes as well, since the inheritance was meant for
that person, not that person and the person's spouse.
Divorce without a prenuptial agreement would reward
golddiggers/leeches/parasites who are only after their
spouse's or ex-spouse's money.
Superstar's comments are why a prenup is necessary.
It scares away the parasites/leeches/golddiggers who are
too lazy/stupid/greedy to earn their own keep, so they
marry someone to mooch off of. 60% of marital assets
is just plain greedy for someone who likely contributed
less than half the accumulated wealth during the marriage.
If you are older and uglier, tell your younger and prettier
partner, accept the prenup or sod off. What's trust and
romance got to do with it? Anyone stupid enough to
believe in that BS deserves to be taken to the cleaners.
The divorce rate is increasing in the world, making the
prenuptial agreement even more necessary than in
the past. The only people who benefit from not having
prenups when it ends in divorces are sleazy golddigging,
parasitical greedy leeches, who were only in it for the money
to begin with.
These are Superstar's own words I quote on this question:
"If you are younger and prettier, either refuse the prenup or
make the provisions more costly than a regular divorce. Ask
for 60%. First marriages shouldn't have prenups, it takes all
the trust and romance out of a marriage."
2006-09-27 06:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Answerer17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A prenup makes the divorce easier. However, it is only necessary where there is a wide disparity in income and assets. If there isn't, forget the prenup. It is something to be negotiated between the two parties to the marriage. If you are younger and prettier, either refuse the prenup or make the provisions more costly than a regular divorce. Ask for 60%. First marriages shouldn't have prenups, it takes all the trust and romance out of a marriage.
2006-09-27 06:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is absolutely right. A prenup will protect you. I know this isn't very romantic but 50% of marriages *do* end in divorce, and it can be a messy divorce at that.
2006-09-27 05:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Demon Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is saying that because he sees the damage and crap that comes from a messy divorce. No-one gets into a marriage (the ones built on the right reasons that is) with the thought of gee, when we divorce what will I get/get to keep. The person you marry is not the same person you divorce. I do not personally agree with a pre-nup. When a person marries they do knowing full well that what is yours is his and what is hers is his, the assets and liabilities (debt).
2006-09-27 05:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you mentioned he is a lawyer so he clearly knows what happens in family court. End of story sign the damn thing
2016-01-04 09:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by walI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the united states there is a fifty percent divorce rate...if you sign a pre-nup he will not SHOW YOU THE MONEY11111
2006-09-27 07:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that both sides can be protected in case something happens.
I agree with your bf.
2006-09-27 05:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is expected
2006-09-27 05:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would refuse to sign it or refuse to marry him
2006-09-27 05:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋