2006-09-27 05:48:20 · 13 answers · asked by prettyinpink8604 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i dont believe in the godparents thing
2006-09-27 06:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be upset because of a friend not asking me to be her babies god-mother. The reason why is no matter if you where or not, you will always be a part of that babies life. I would just love her and be the best friend possible that you can be to her. Women go through hormonal inbalances during pregnancies and after, and she won't need the added stress of you being upset with her because she didn't ask you. You could ask her if she has decided on who the babies god-mother will be, but don't be upset if she doesn't ask you. Just give her all the love and help she may need.
2006-09-27 13:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by danielle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choosing Godparents for your children is a very difficult thing to do, believe me I know. People choose different people for different reasons and it usually has nothing to do with who is your "best friend". You have to remember that being a Godparent isn't just a special title that you get to wear to be a little more important in a child's life, it's the acceptance that if something happens to child's parents you will take responsibility for raising their children. You have to keep that in mind whenever you are asked to be a Godparent, if you can't see yourself raising that child you should not accept the responsibility.
Parents choose Godparents based on who they think will provide the kind of life they would want for their kids. We ideally wanted a stable couple who already had kids of their own, someone we knew would love our baby just like their own. We wanted to make sure that whoever we chose would make sure that he had all the advantages of a good education and make sure that he understood the importance of one. We wanted to know that they would teach him to be a man and a gentleman, and to make sure that he was allowed to choose his own spiritual beliefs.
These are alot of qualifications, and that is why you should never be offended if you aren't chosen. It doesn't mean that they don't love you or trust you, it just means that they needed to find a situation for their child that would be the very best environment that they could have. I also wouldn't ASK them to make you the Godmother. If they don't choose you it's going to put so much pressure on them becuase they will worry that you'll be upset. The best you can do is offer your help with the baby in any way that you can give it and accept what comes your way.
Don't let any decision the best friend makes change your friendship or your relationship with the baby!
2006-09-27 13:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you should. I didn't make my best friend my daughters God Mother. Only because I had family members that I was super close to. Now if I was not close to any of my family I would have asked my best friend to be it. I don't think you should take it to heart. I'm sure she knows that you would have done a great job if it was you. Just be a good friend to the Mother and "Aunt" to the child.
2006-09-27 13:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by laneylewzmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend have a sister or sister in law that she feels more obligated to have as a God Mother? I have no brothers or sisters and have 2 really close frineds. I had one as my Maid of Honor at my wedding so I had the other be the God Mother to my first child. I will ask my Maid of Honor friend to be God Mother to my second child. I dont think there was any bitterness between either of them over who was what.
2006-09-27 12:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know you want to be a godmother? People choose godparents for many reasons all of them having to do with what will happen to our children if something happens to us Don't be offended if she doesn't pick you just be understanding and be a part of the child's life as a good friend or mentor even an honorary aunt go ahead spoil the kid anyway! haha
2006-09-27 12:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by seminoleswty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt be upset. One of my friends has just assumed that she will be a god mother and it will be difficult to tell her that she wont be. I have my own reasons for choosing my god parents but it doesnt mean that all of my other friends will be any less important to the baby.
2006-09-27 12:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by sarah_north06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Or if you are, dont tell her that. This same thing happened to me, and it kinda hurts, but it's her child. And whatever she wants she wants, it doesnt mean you dont mean anything to her. Think about if tables were turned, and you were withchild. You had 2 people to pick from to be your childs godmother, and you trusted and loved them both. Would you just pick your friend so she wouldnt be angry with you? No. You would pick whatever you would think would be the best for her child, which is what she has to do.
Don't take it personally!! :) Good Luck!!
2006-09-27 12:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by bridgetsmomma621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, it's not a popularity contest. Depending on their faith, they may have certain requirements they want - such as the religion, whether the person is practising, how stable the person is, etc. This doesn't mean you are any less a friend - it's just a particular circumstance.
2006-09-27 13:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah if she chose another friend...but if she chose a sister or a family member, then you shouldn't be upset. Or maybe she doesn't think you are mature enough to take care of her kid if she dies. Maybe she doesn't like the way you parent your own kids, if you have any.
2006-09-27 13:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋