How does one become not so "thin skinned"?

Question

I'm so shy and so sensitive it's frustrating! Though people are always like "Who gives a crap? Don't listen to them!" ...which doesn't seem very helpful for me. I try not to but it doesn't always work... :-(

Answer 1

This is definitely something you can work on. Remember you can't control what other people say or do but you can control how you react. You are going to feel the way you feel but whenever someone says something that you think you shouldn't pay attention but can't help it, just do your best to ignore them and when you get a chance just write out all things you would want to yell at them, that will help you see why it bothers it you so much, but at the same time you stop yourself from saying stuff to perpetuate the cycle or getting engaged in stupid conversations about things that don't matter. It takes practice and you aren't always going to be able to act tough but don't beat yourself when you break down or react in a way you don't like... just figure out how you would have liked to handle the situation afterwards and then the next time it happens you'll probably be better prepared to act the way you want to act. Don't worry you'll figure it all out. Most of time people saying they don't care what others think are just pretending. They care, they are just better actors.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being shy and snsitive!

If you are allowing others opinion impact your life, that is where the problem is. If you put 100 people in a room and ask them their opinion on the same subject, you will probably get at least 80 different answers. Which one are you going to take? Hopefully your own!

Love yourself! God created you just the way you are for a reason! Remember that!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Practice on a friend or relative to be more agressive and saying what's on your mind, maybe this will help you to act this way to others too. How does you being shy and sensitive bother you? Can you give me some examples? Sometimes it can be a good thing too but I'm not sure exactly what kinds of things you are going through.

Answer 4

You have to realize that the world won't end if you have an opinion that people don't like. And say no for a change when someone asks you to do them a favor. You cannot be anyone until you know who you are. My daughter has the same problem and she is slowly coming out of her shell now and I hope you and her can realize your potentials and know that it's okay to care, not to care so much you hurt yourself.

Answer 5

Reduce your stress. Take up meditation and make sure you get enough exercise. Being shy isn't the same as being thin skinned. If you're thin skinned you are probably nursing old, unresolved hurts. Find them. Resolve them. Grow. Get out there and have some fun! :-)

Answer 6

I understand you 'cos I'm kind of like that too. sensitive to criticism although not showing it. I really think that in a few years it'll change and as you grow older you'll have much more experience so you'll see that it's not so important what other people think.

Answer 7

Honey, you are tenderhearted and there is not a THING wrong with that. The only way to get over being "thin skinned" is experience. You are going to be hurt, but it will make you stronger. I used to be very tenderhearted.

Answer 8

I'm the same way. Get involved in a sport or club. It will help with your confidence and self esteem. I'm getting involved in horse riding, and already I'm feeling better about myself and more confident.
Good luck, I understand how hard it is.

Answer 9

It helps to remember that negative people are that way because of a problem with THEMSELVES, not with you. They look at you, see a nice person, and then look at themselves, see a not-so-nice person, .......and where do they put their resentment? On themselves? Nope. On you. Where it DOES NOT belong. That is a glitch in THEIR psychological make-up. Find some positive people to hang with.

Answer 10

EAT. Preferably food.