How do we as people deal with Conflict in both your personal and professional life?

Question

Your approaches to conflict
Ways to resolve conflict
What your desired outcomes are
how you communicate conflict (alone, with others)
An example from your life

Answer 1

It really depends on who the conflict is with and where the conflict is taking place.

If it is in the workplace and the conflict is with a superior, there are procedures you must follow to voice a complaint. There are different procedure if it is a subordinate. If it is a co-worker, you might have the opportunity to ask them to sit with you over coffee and discuss the issue. They can refuse and you can go to a superviosr to ask for assistance.

If the conflict is with a family member, you need to take into consideration your history with that person and the ability of both of you to have a rational, logical and consturctive discussion. If any onf those elements are missing, then family conflict can be more than difficult, it can be dangerous- emotionally and maybe physically.

In my own house, when an issue arises with my husband or kids, we call a fmaily round table. everyone honors the person speaking by letting them "have the floor" until they feel that they are done speaking their piece. We go around until everyone is done speaking and then we try and offer solutions to the problem. The kids used to hate this when they were younger. In an interesting turn of events, they now have room mates in their college rental places and they have called their own round tables to figure out stuff like noise, cleaning, car parking, food sharing etc.

Answer 2

Personally, I try to avoid conflict. I pick my battles carefully, because conflict actually makes me ill. I have serious issues with the pushy people, the ones that are nosy, close-talkers who meddle--they drain my energy. I avoid them altogether, wherever possible. I am an assertive person, too, but I have manners. I prefer to talk about conflict, directly, when necessary. Most of the time, I will discuss conflict resolution with a third party to better gather my thoughts before proceeding. I don't need to get along with everyone, and there are always conflicts of some sort. I rarely have dramatic conflicts (because of the avoidance) but I had a whopper years ago. I have a non-blood relative who I could not reach middle ground with. She wanted everything her way, and I got worn down, lashed out and now we are estranged. I don't miss her. EVER. I wish I had done it years ago, or better yet, avoided attempting a relationship, and kept her as a person I see on occasion. Would have been easier on all those third parties.

Hope this helps you.

Answer 3

I sometimes am the root of conflict. I am never in denial of anything ... (I don't think) Usually talking things out and sprouting views is the best way to go ... (yelling back and forth=no one gets heard) I have a tendency to walk away if the issue does not hold any value to me ... In the end I hope that something is learned. Most of the time it isn't the case cause ppl usually aren't open to new views ... or they understand but their pride gets to them!

Answer 4

I go right in and nip it in the bud, especially if it is with my mate as we are together day and night and I don't like the tension. If he is being cool and ugly, I will simply say, it seems like to me that I have done something to offend you, if I did I certainly didn't do it intentionally, can we talk about it? He will usually start telling me and we work it out. I pretty much do this on the job also, it usually works.

Answer 5

If we wait till all our complications are resolved do we ever get round to seeing a customer? that is about being specialist and concentrating on the customer's desires, no matter if the project looks the same the underlying themes will frequently be different. till for sure the therapist initiatives their themes on the customer, that's what I mean about being specialist, if the therapist can not do this i'd question their occupation selection!

Answer 6

I take dance classes and yoga first of just to keep balanced, it helps me come to better conclusions instead of beating some one up