So, I got the phone call very late monday night from a dear friend of mine. Twelve hours earlier, she got the call saying she has cancer. She's thirty, married with an eight year old, and works as a vet tech at a small clinic. I, of course, offered whatever support i can give to her (my mother went through breast cancer and I was her daily care giver. I know what she's in for.)....
But.... what can I do/ give her as a good sign of support? I've put down my crocheting projects for the time being to make her several soft and fuzzy hats (chemo- loss of hair- extremely sensative scalps). They don't have enough food storage space where I could make them tons of meals for future use.... Is there anything else I can do or offer that could help? She knows already (as does her husband) that I'm there for all the late night calls, hospital appointments, errands, and whatever they need.... But I feel like it's not enough.
2006-09-27 05:21:11 · 9 answers · asked by dedamona1331 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds to me as though you are doing everything a good friend could possibly do.
As time goes by your friend will need a lot of 'normal' times. Times when she and you can do what any normal two friends would do as much as her health will allow. Just be available to make life as every-day as you possibly can for her.
2006-09-27 05:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious.Don't let down urself .U really r avery good person.Try to be more in control and self-possessed in front of her.If u show even the slightest trace of fear or sorrow for ur friend's condition,chances r that ur friend will soon realize this and then god only knows what may happen.Maintain ur confidence and be positive.Show to her that inspite of all the adversities,u r dot positive about her survival and will always be her stand-by for support,care and concern.U need to maintain optimism and make urself, her kids and husband believe that nothing bad will happen and everything will work out in the end.
2006-09-27 05:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her you care, with a warm meal, instead of preparing the food ahead of time, just do it early in the after noon. Nothing like having the house cleaned too..I'm sure you know that, but really, window and walls have to be cleaned too.
2006-09-27 05:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card along with a little statue of 'The Angel of Healing' by Willow Tree. These are very inspirational and everytime she sees it she will think of you! It will help give her strength when she needs it! A friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer...24 years old...and she LOVED this little statue!
2006-09-27 05:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her.I've been there with my own father and all i could do was feel helpless but through thick and thin i was by his side.Done the trips to hospital or what ever i could.God bless you.
2006-09-27 05:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by unbrokencracker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you do the nice things of life. Go shopping together, to a movie,...... whatever. Have fun.
2006-09-27 05:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by AJK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do something memorable for her, a video with her will do not unless she doesnt like it..and a sort of lists of things she wants that she wasnt able to achieve or do. so if it is possible, make it both of you.
2006-09-27 05:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by pea_1208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for you, it will never feel like enough. but as long as she knows you're there for her that's what matters. it sounds like you're a great friend.
2006-09-27 07:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jane W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT A GOOD FRIEND YOU ARE.
2006-09-27 05:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋