My wife's sex drive is almost non-existent. She says that she's too stressed out to think about sex. She definitely is under a lot of stress, but so am i, and i still want to do her every time i see her butt. I love her butt! Anyway, she said it has nothing to do with attraction, but she's just too stressed out.
Has this happened to any of you, and how did you overcome it? I'm trying to help her to destress so that we can connect.
2006-09-27 05:12:44 · 11 answers · asked by Echelon Right 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It's happening to me as we speak. I think it's more about what's going on in the situation you're both in. Stress plays a huge factor and when there's too much of it things like this happen. Look all I can tell you is to be patient with her ok. Help her relieve the stress by talking to her about what has her feeling this way. Take it one day at a time. I know it's not what you want to hear but women a really sensitive and we stress at a higher level than you guys do emotionally. Sit her down talk to her work with her not against her. If you truly love her then give it a try. Good luck.(l wish my fiance would do this for me)
2006-09-27 05:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by friend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can happen to anyone. Stress doesn't lower my sex drive, but then again, I'm sure I'm very different from your wife. In order to over come it, as her to sit down and get a little sensual. Start with a massage and hope she's gets the hint. I guarantee sex will make her and you feel better.
2006-09-27 05:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can but sex can also help relieve stress. Don't force the issue because that will increase stress and make the process longer. Ask if there is anything you can do to help her out and de-stress.
It has happened to me and I remembered that sex is my favorite form of exercise and exercise relieves stress. I'm also not one to say no to my man when it comes to sex. Even in an argument. I'm not going to miss out on the good stuff because we're upset at each other. For me it makes it more intense. That's just me don't expect her to be the same.
2006-09-27 05:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by eehco 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stress can take away alot of happiness in the home. Work related stress, financial stress can take all the fun out of a relationship. No time to joke about stuff, too much focus on being serious all the time. Sex requires a relaxed mind. Women find it hard to get turned on just like that, unlike men who with some effort (a little drink, warm bath, and a wife walking by naked/in sexy lingerie) can get aroused.
Try to change the environment. Get away from the kids or the town if you can afford it and book yourselves in a nice hotel. With effort try to ignite her sexual and romatic side as you did the first time you met her. You need to go out, get a good shave, buy a nice perfume, change your clothes, start working out so you can be attractive to your wife again.
2006-09-27 05:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me. My girlfriend and I are both teachers and if she has a stressful day she is less likely to perform. I think more so for females they need to be relaxed and happy in order to enjoy sex. Im sure some women use sex to counter act stress however in your girlfriend's case it seems this is a legitimae answer. So i guess your solution is to make her feel less stressed, maybe keep complimenting her butt !
2006-09-27 05:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i know what you are going though trust me I am the same way love to have sex and only got it maybe at first the 1st 10 yrs of Marriage was like 3-4 times a week and trust me I wanted it 2 a day no lie once I realized what it was like to really start to enjoy sex that all I thought about it killed me! now never have it and would still love it maybe 3times a day! so you are normal as ever! Just Married to the wrong man like I am!
2016-03-18 01:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It DEFINITELY affects your sex drive. What it usually does is lower a woman's testosterone levels to almost nil (yes, women have testosterone). With these levels down, the sex drive leaves. The best thing to do is yoga, mediation, taking time for yourself, etc. She has to get her mental state correct to get the hormone levels back to normal. I would not suggest any testosterone therapies as women can develop strange things like body hair problems. Some doctors prescribe therapies without really understanding the consequences.
2006-09-27 05:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stress can effect ANYONES libido.. including guys. you must be an exception. because when i am under a lot of stress or have stuff on my mind. sex is the last thing i want to do. i lose intrest in it. its not something you can force. unless you can find a way to reduce her stress in some way. if not. well it wil be a bit of a dry period for you bud. i think fo rthe average person a LOT of stress sort of puts sex on the back burner. unless you are a teen then nothing wil stop you .
2006-09-27 05:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by Calvin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definately. Stress can play a major part in not feeling "up for it"... A woman normal enjoys sex alot better if she is relaxed and doesn't have something on her mind.
2006-09-27 05:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody is going to say that it's not from the stress but maybe you can try to convince her that sex will destress her... After sex there's no more stress on your mind (or is that just on my mind?).
2006-09-27 05:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anna-Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋